Dear God,
I can’t hold on much longer. Each time I think things can’t get worse they do. I have tried to be a good person, to help others, to be there and protect them, but I’m falling apart. There is no silver lining, no break in the darkness.
I have given up on anything good ever happening in my life. One thing I know for sure. If you don’t help me there is no option. I try to think positive but each time I do or think things will look up something worse comes my way.
Please hear me, please help me. My husband just lost his job, I’ve gained weight, our 1 car is dying, one of my cat’s is sick, my Diabetes is out of control, I don’t know when the last time I was happy or not stressed, we could loose our house, our bills are piling up, my mom could die, all the things I found joy in don’t work anymore, and my depression has escalated. I don’t want to die, but I do want the disappointments and constant worry, stress, and pain to go away. For once I’d like to have a happy year. Not perfect just not tragic and rout with pain. I feel like I have nothing left but the prospect of more pain. I can’t even help those around me to have a better life.
I NEED HELP PLEASE.
Nicole, Oregon/USA
January 9th, 2009 at 6:57 am
Dear Nicole,
I can’t say that I can relate to you but I can try to understand what you’re going through. I know that life might be hard right now but its best if you stop concentrating on all the bad in your life and start concentrating on the good that you have. Even if it’s not much, it’s still something. You have a husband and a mum that LOVE you, you still have a roof over your head, a comfortable bed you can sleep in, food in your stomach. Think of everything good, no matter how small it could be, try to appreciate what you have right here right now. If you think about it, one of the most important things in life (at least to me) is love. You have that. Personally, I’d rather love and be loved by people rather than not have love in my life but have everything else.
I don’t know if my reply will make any difference to you but I hope it will make you think in a more positive light. Never give up; God is always there for you and He will answer your prayers. BELIEVE!
January 9th, 2009 at 7:53 am
Dear Nicole,
you cannot control your destiny, you cannot change things that are bound to happend. You can only change your fate, those things that you can modify.
It?s like this: you, are one of 6 billion three hundret million persons on this little earth that has some problems. It depends on you how you SEE them.
When concerning a problem, it?s not so much of doing or not doing something, but more about understanding it.
Dont let your mind overcome you. Things are only as big, or as important as we think or make them to be.
Good luck.
January 9th, 2009 at 8:42 am
Daddy I stand before your throne on behalf on Nicole, in agreement with her prayer. LORD help this woman and her family. Help her to put her trust in YOU and to not lean on her own understanding. Please provide a job for her husband LORD. Please help her keep her weight at a healthy level God and please bless the health of Nicole’s mother. Strengthen Nicole Daddy…remind her that You are indeed a faithful and Just God. Lord I don’t know where she stands in YOU, but I pray that you would meet her where she’s at and draw her closer to YOU and Your truth. I ask for all of this in the name of the only GOD above, Christ Jesus.
January 9th, 2009 at 10:54 am
You WILL make it through this tough time. You have people who love you and that is huge. If your husband lost his job then have him apply for unemployment, call the bank/mortgage company to work with you on your payments. If you lose the house then pls remember many people have also been in this situation. You did nothing wrong. This economy sucks and alot of innocent people are hurting because of it.Take your cat to the Humane Society and find out your options. Pls eat healthy and look after yourself. If your health is gone, that is something you cannot get back. Remember, you live in the US. We have programs to help us when things get out of control. And you have one anonymous person out in the blogosphere who is praying for you because I too have been there.
January 9th, 2009 at 3:56 pm
Nicole:
its not as bad as you think.
*My grandmother is diabetic for the last 20 years. One thing about her is that she has major will power. She has controlled her sugar level through food habits. Substitutes for sugar and like wise. You can learn more about them through the internet. So relax! At 80 my grandmum is up and running. Learn to love yourself with your fat! Try Yoga and meditation.
* Your Husband losing his job; Millions of people have. I quit my job 2 years ago and I am happier. I am working as freelancer and as consultant. I work from home. Your husband and you should sit and discuss the possibilities open for both of you. My best friend lost her job as an architect. She now sells home made cookies and is major hit
!!!
* Bills : Learn to budget it out and spend judiciously. Have an optimistic worldview and prioritize everything . Take small steps to overcome your financial crisis. One bill at a time. In no time you’ll be able to see yourself through this.
* Your Mum: She’ll be fine. I’ll pray… we all will.
* Your Cat: She has been loved and will always be forever.
You’ll have a great year. Make sure you wake up every morning with a smile and a will power to seize the bull by its horns. He is watching over you and you are His favorite child.
I think all you need is a BIG HUG!!
>:D< !!
January 9th, 2009 at 8:45 pm
Hi Nicole,
As the other people commented I believe you should count your blessing and believe in the almighty God that he will give you victory. You should also take care of yourself by eating healthy food and by excercising. Having a loving husband is not something you can take for granted. Be hopeful about life as having a hopeful manner is more than an attitude or belief. It is the purpose, process and spiritual energy that drives us forward toward “connecting the dots and living a passionate life, in good times or bad. Help your husband at least by being positive about life and showing your love and care to him. God loves everyone of us regardless of who we are and the main thing is to be strong when things get harder. God bless you.
Mo
January 9th, 2009 at 9:28 pm
Dear Friend,
You are breathing…aren’t you? Be grateful !! You say you “don’t want to die”…so, you have the answer, start acting positively now by making the neccessary changes thats required to turn your life around. Small steps forward is all it takes…if done with FAITH and LOVE….HAPPINESS is just around the corner.
Wish You All The Best For 2009…Make it 200&”MINE” !!
Kindest regards,
Karven
January 10th, 2009 at 5:00 pm
Nicole… sweetheart…remember - god gives us what we can only handle and our cup not runnith over… there is obviously a plan. remember… not only does the good lord provide but he will carry you when you cannot. Have you ever just sat on a rock and meditated - just you and god? have you ever just stopped one minute to just breath the fresh air? have you ever just sat still to just listen? not whats going on outside but to your heart? to your gut? have you ever just let god take over? open your heart to him…. i promise… he is listening.
my worst was when i was an out of control alcoholic, i was going thru divorce and my parents were also going thru divorce. i was out of work, displaced, finishing school and i had a small child i was trying to not let the bad affect him in anyway. i tried to commit suicide. i even failed at that. i downed 42 pills of a seditive anti-depressant with a bottle of tequilla. but still he was not ready for me yet. why? he had a plan. i woke up embarrassed in a mental hospital because i was ashamed of what i failed at. i had nothing, no hope, no will , no money - only rock bottom…. i lost everything not once but twice in life - a broken realtionship with my sons father - which was a blessing… why? he was abusive in the worst way… god led me to my second husband… at the time was a blessing - then life hit me hard when he found someone younger and more prettier and skinner… i lost everything - went home to my parents creating a broken hell of a home - i had no support there only - empitness and loneliness. thats when i hit bottom… my depression went way out of control…
that was 2002 - somehow - god held me - god carried me - god showed me… yea at times it just really sucked. guess what… i am alive and i have my child… i still don’t have everything i lost back and i have debts out my wazoo but i have my spirt and i have god…
maybe where you are at this moment.. he’s testing you? he’s testing your faith and somehow its been misplaced… just listen to whats inside… maybe these things are happening to make way for something bigger and better - more grand than you can grasp.
belive me - i wanted to hate god because of all the crap i went thru - but he still was there for me - he carried me- it was god who wrapped his arms around me in my darkest hours of despair…
I promise there is something bigger and better going to happen… when i can’t say… but just belive. belive in yourself and belive in him - he’ll meet you half way…. it took me along time and many battles, frustrations, moves, adjustments and just plain trial and tribulations but
better things have come my way - and im still working on them…
i should have died… but i am glad he saved me. maybe i was saved to tell you that yes sweetheart - there is light. it just may take a minute.don’t give up and don’t quit… you will miss out -
before you totally give up which i hope you don’t - i want you to try this on a daily basis. first off this will help connect with god or your higher power - second… this will help with getting yourself back …..
find a quite and undisturbed place just for you. bathroom, back porch, even a closet if you have too… a park anywhere where noone i mean noone will disturb you. take a note book and a pen.
take 5, 10 even 20 minutes of just talking to god - loudly or to yourself - after talking to god… take another 5,10 or 20 minutes just being still and listening to what he has to say…. just sit in silence…. don’t think of all the bad stuff that’s bringin ya down… it will still be there when your done ~ when your doing this keep your heart open and your mind clear… then when you feel at ease and calm - write down your thoughts, feellings, hopes even prayers…. then writed down just one thing that is good about you…
example: (this is from my journey back from the bleakness and despair)
i listened thru the trees and i feel calm because i can only tackle one thing at a time. thank you god - for loving me.
i like that you gave me the ability to smile.
next day: i stared at the sky and was amazed at how i could see animal shapes in the clouds like i was 6 again. Thank you god for giving me humor and creativity.
Nicole it will take a while but in time you will feel better about you and your faith will renew… and as far as keeping the world on your sholders… its not ment to rotate there… you are human - unless your wonder woman or something… but honey… you are ment to change, love, feel, loose, smile , laugh, cry - and just be the woman you are…
There are always solutions to problems - just don’t make it permemnant… i promise life is full of surprises ~
GOD GRANT ME THE SERINITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE, CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFRENCE…
as far as your husband losing his job… somewhere there is something better out there…. losing your home…maybe you need to downsize…. and pray sweetheart your mom makes it thru her illness… just remember that there is always a positive to the negative… just look for it…i know it sucks bad… but it works out -
hopefully i helped you and i could go on and on… if i bored you to death i am sorry… but i’ve been there and i feel your pain…just don’t lose faith and if you have to take it a minute at a time… these trials will too pass… just like day passes into night…
God Bless You Nicole and I pray for you… hang in there.. life is beautiful and very magical if you just listen and breath.
January 14th, 2009 at 4:53 pm
Nicole,
I can sit here all night and tell you how God can help you through this. But i wont. the only thing i can tell you is your not alone. Maybe to some of our brothers and sisters in Christ, these problems have an easy answer.. i know better.One of the hardest things in the world to do is have faith during these times. It seems like there is no end in sight.you have to reach up to touch rock bottem.You have now reached that point of giving up,which is good. Because now God can fully take over. Let Him have it. give it up and tell him you dont want it anymore and he can do what he wants to with it. i promise everything will get better. I will be fighting the spiritual battle with you, we all will.
Love in Him always and forever,
cj
January 17th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
I know things are rough and it is cliched to say it will get better. The first step you have already done, you have turned to God. God WILL help you and it will work out. Remember God helps those, who help themselves.
January 18th, 2009 at 5:12 am
be strong and believe it will give you great strength and perspective.believe in him and he will be there for you,do not doubt for a minute.find the simple things in your life beause they can rekindle the joys that you remember and the smiles that will bring the changes that you look for.look deep he listens.happiness is really what changes times and circumstances.good,happiness,and thoughts will attract the same do not give up?
January 18th, 2009 at 11:26 am
dear nicole,
here’s a little something that might help.
it’s become my mantra. hope it works for you.
- devon
“O God! Refresh and gladden my spirit. Purify my heart. Illumine my powers. I lay all my affairs in Thy hand. Thou art my Guide and my Refuge. I will no longer be sorrowful and grieved; I will be a happy and joyful being. O God! I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me. I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life.
O God! Thou art more friend to me than I am to myself. I dedicate myself to Thee, O Lord.”
January 21st, 2009 at 1:05 am
ive been gone through the years of hardship, my father dies at my early age,my mom was plain housewife,( sickly ones) while we( 5 kids are still studying at that moment when my father passed away . were not prepared )people, relatives look down on us, but since my mom is very religious one she prayed a lot from moring till nihgt w/ all the sincerity and faith , she surrrender everything- our life.to god,..she never gives up..and look at us now,out of the 5 kids of my mom , 4 are all sucessful ones and having family of thier own who are closed to god.im the only single, ( at my age 45) but i know GOd had someone for me who is the best, since my mom still praying for that also
so my dear nicole, had faiht i god,and prayed god she never leave you, take it from me
January 22nd, 2009 at 12:16 am
One of my very best friends (we called each other family) killed himself in the beginning of Dec. I can’t explain the way it’s left our lives in tatters. When he and I would talk about depression and the like, I always reminded him that life is so fluid. Everything changes constantly. The awful times do seem to stretch forever sometimes, but they don’t truly last forever. They can’t. I do know that this is your choice- you have to be able to take responsibility for your own life, your own happiness, but giving up seems like such a waste.
When I was terribly depressed and everything was wrong, I got to the point where I took immense pride just from getting out of bed, from getting dressed, brushing my teeth and hair. If the people around you truly knew how difficult it was to exist, they would be proud, too. You’ve just got to stick around, but, like I said before, it has to be your decision. You have to choose life… or let it choose you. I know it’s become trite, but Churchill’s quote will always be one of my favorites:
If you’re going through hell, keep going.
January 22nd, 2009 at 2:59 pm
Dear Nicole;
I am sorry that you are faceing such hardship. I have two suggestions for you. First and foremost, I suggest that you find yourself a good bible teaching church, and go for counceling. We often go through these things, loving God, but not really understanding. We cry out, and don’t always feel we’re get answers. Jesus said, “Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his rightousness, and all of these things, (your needs), will be given unto you. You are obviously seeking God, so find out through his word, what his desires and promises are for those who love him and are called for the purposes of God. Search your heart, lay all your troubles and concerns upon him, he is listening. Then get a bible, read it, pray and ask God to lead you to a church, or even a person who could help you understand the scriptures, and lead you to a place for counceling.
Secondly, pray for your mother. You said she might die. I am sure this is a great concern of yours. Make this your first priority. Everything else is secondary. Devote most of your prayers to your mother and your relationship. Ask God to help you with it, and pray for her healing as well.
Sometimes when we need a miricale, we need to pray for someone elses. The fourth commandment says “Honor thy mother and thy father” but did you know that it doesn’t end there? It also says “so that all will go well with you in life”. So if you really are concerned for your mom’s health, pray for her, love and forgive her if necessary, and enjoy her while you can.
I pray that you will receive the peace of God that surpasses all understanding, the love of God in your heart, and the grace of God.
January 22nd, 2009 at 5:02 pm
My brother has been going through this kind of depressiong for over a year now. He does NOT internalize any of his feelings either, so I believe I have at least an idea of what it might be like. What I have to say is hard to put into practice; you cannot simply make yourself ‘be happy.’
The good thing is, you realize that you focus too much on the negatives in life. Sure, all those things are TERRIBLE, but not unbearable. Whenever things start falling apart for me, I remeber this: the absolute worst thing that can happen in life is to lose it. If I have money problems, I remember that some people have no money. If I have health problems, I remember that some people are close to death, yet these people are as happy as the day they were born. Now, those things that are happening to you may not have happened to me, but it doesnt matter; it doesnt make it not true.
My point is this, it IS possible to be happy in the face of destruction, and no matter how bad the situation may seem, there is always a worse position. The real key to happiness is to be happy even in these times.
Food, shelter, money- all physical things are meaningless in the grand scheme anyway, so try not to worry so much about them. I know its hard to make yourself think this way, but try to realize that real happiness comes from God, and even though you pray on your knees 24/7 without so much as a whisper in return, rember He is there, and doing a GREAT and mighty work in you and through you.
You probably don’t want to hear this, but dont pray that He takes your problems off your hands; thats not what He wants. Instead pray that He gives you POWER to deal with them.
God Loves you, and rember that what does not kill us makes us stronger.
January 22nd, 2009 at 11:41 pm
Are you saved? Meaning, Do you have a personal relationship with Christ? If No, then ask Christ to come into your heart and change your life. If Yes, then you ust have more faith that God doe not fail his children. Good deeds are great, but they will not get anyone into the kingdom of heaven. God thinks enough of you to get me out of bed and look at this website I have never seen before and speek to you through me. Beleive that God is Good and that he will not fail you. Prayer without faith is like eating a meal wth no food. God bless you and take care.
January 24th, 2009 at 8:12 am
wow! i thought i was alone in this miss of problems i also am facing traribble finacial lost my hubby is also without a job so am i, we have no place to go live as we are losing our home, no jobs, just food stamp although i am happy that we can have food in our stomach bills are just packing up.
is hard, really hard, i pray and pray, donnt know what else to do.
January 26th, 2009 at 3:21 pm
I have heard about your struggle, but at no time I have heard of how you want your lives to be.
How can one get an end result if there has not been a confession of the end result.
Show me a confession of your desired end result in writing…..
Be specific!
Place it here for all to see!
If you can not do so… then you do not believe this can happen…. then ye have little faith!
Then place it on paper where I can see it through your eyes every day without a miss.
BUT…. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR…
And be specific, don’t forget something.
Remember the 7 deadly sins!
January 27th, 2009 at 3:22 pm
i just want to give u a hug..really.
January 29th, 2009 at 5:19 am
Nicole,
As a diabetic, I understand being out of control. As a husband and parent, I know the troubles there. I’ve been unemployed many times, without cash, money for bills (as I am today) and weary of the stressors in life. Despite three jobs, I cannot pay my taxes that loom.
But because I believe in God Almighty and Jesus and the Holy Ghost, I always know there is hope. That small amount of faith restores my optimism even when my son has been to the emergency room three times in the last two months. Knowing God will take care of you is like a life-long yoga class; it’s a stress reliever and energizer.
Don’t know why God does what he does, but he’s built my character for the future which I must face. He puts mountains in front of us for the exercise; learn from the mountain you must scale and conquer it or you’ll see the same mountain every week until you pass God’s test. God wants you to grow wiser and stronger daily. Don’t let God or yourself down by crying too long. You can make it – you must make it.
During World War II, England was hammered daily by German planes dropping bombs on London and virtually every British citizen on the island nation. By that time, a man considered a total political failure, Winston Churchill, had risen to power in England. He had the foresight before Hitler controlled Europe to see the Nazi path to Britain and Russia when other world leaders were blinded by their own narrow world view.
His advice to school children a decade after the biggest war ever: Never, never, never, never, never, never, never, never quit. It was his most power, yet briefest, speech ever. Follow that guideline and you too will win in the game of life.
January 29th, 2009 at 6:12 am
Take care of yourself first. Any further explaination of this would diminish the importance.
We have a lot in common, unfortunately, but it’s good to know we’re not alone.
January 30th, 2009 at 9:42 am
Dear sister in Christ
I would like to help you…God uses us who are more fortunate to help each other. WhenI was hungry did you feed me? Asks Jesus/
Where can I send you suport finacial. Angels at your side
In Jesus name
David
January 31st, 2009 at 7:45 am
Just remember, when everything around you going bad GOD is at his best. Sometimes we have to examine ourselves because we might not be doing everything right. Keep Praying and building a stronger relationship with God. I pray that God’s Will be done and that he gives you understanding with what’s going on in your life
IN JESUS NAME
AMEN. AMEN. AMEN
January 31st, 2009 at 4:33 pm
You’re not alone. Even great men of God had struggles as such, in Psalms alone, David lamented the same way you did. Yet when David lamented, he chose to do it to God. He chose to breakdown in His presence, and end by giving praise despite his worldly circumstances. In Romans, apostle Paul told the people about his own unbelief and struggles to be what the world views as a ‘good christian’. “For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice.” (Romans 7:19)
Your challenges are real, do not worry. Don’t get distracted by things that do not matter, things of the world, pressures people put on you. In the storm, be like Peter, call on Him in the storm. So long as Peter kept his eyes on Jesus, he could walk on water, but once he turned himself to look at the magnitude of the waves, his eyes left Him and he sank. Just know this, that “There is therefore now NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” He will pick you up from the water even if you fail, even if you think you are not ‘good’ enough. And don’t worry because even if you give up on yourself, Jesus will not. He loves you more than you’ll know, than you love Him.
Rest, stop struggling to hold onto His hand. Let Him hold on to yours. Because He is faithful, He is God, unlike us. He will never let go.
January 31st, 2009 at 4:38 pm
hey nicole. i have a question for ya, to you who is Jesus Christ? to me, He is the WAY, the TRUTH, and THE LIFE. He is my Savior and Redeemer. If He isnt that to you, Im praying that God draws your heart out and you realize who you really are before Him. but, if you are a christian then I want you to know that the ONLY thing that matters is becoming more like Jesus Christ. Christians have NO promises whatsoever in scripture that says we are going to get lots of money, a big house, a new shiny car, have a family, and even good health. If you are saved and you know that 110%, then I want you to realize that materials dont matter at all. I want you to trust Him, ask for peace, comfort, and strength to get through this. Philipians 4 is all about what Christians are to do in the good and bad times. we are to become more like Him through the good and bad times. Well, I love you with the love that Jesus Christ loves you which is unconditional, He doesnt care what you have done! He wants to forgive you and take you with Him when you die. Im praying for you! a’ight, im out!
February 1st, 2009 at 2:02 pm
I’ve been in your state of mind before….. Some people don’t understand that when your down that it’s almost impossible to “count your blessings”, “things will get better” or the worst kind of comment ” your only billions that have the same problems”… how does that help you. There are resources available to you through churches, government agencies, G-D put those things in place for a reason… use them!!! Don’t let yourself get pulled down any further, after you get the help you need, then you can count your blessing because they will still be there. You have to stop the pain before you can take some of the advice given here. I’ll pray for you and your family, peace.
February 1st, 2009 at 11:45 pm
DEAR NIC
today i have been down. my sister has gone to school, my dad is sick at home, my mother left us, my brother smokes weed. on several
occassions, my brother has threatened to kill my father. one day he took up a knife saying that he was going to kill him. Just yesterday, he threatened to beat him. No one is educatedin my family except me and my sister who has gone to college to study nursing. I am currently studyng law going in final year. Before i saw your mail i was asking God, did you choose me to study law so that i can better cope with my family problems? and then i went to google and i typed dear God and you were there. i call upon you to put your trust in the Lord. He cannot forsake us. HE loves us. This earth is not ou rhome we are just passing through. some problems are a test of our faith and sometimes they are there to make us believe in God. God has a plan for our lives. BELIEVE.
Cathy
February 6th, 2009 at 10:09 am
Dear Nicole,
I’ve been writing a lot to express my feelings about life and what I have experienced in life. I don’ understand why people have to experience pain in order to believe that there may or may not be a God of the Univers.
I like you suffer from a incurable disease, and also like your husband ,have lost my job, and cannot find any work. .
But, through all of my loss, I still BELIEVE in God. I don’t think that I would of made it through this life without somekind of faith in God.
I have suffered many losses, regarding, family. All of my brothers and a sister have passed away at a very young ages. I thought for years about why only two out of six children were chosen to live.
I don’t have any suggestions for you ,and there are no magical words to take away your pain, but I truly believe, that you have deep within your soul the answers to your own problems, and only you can resolve your lifes difficulties. However, there is always HOPE, and I promise you that what you are going through now iin life will CHANGE.
There’s truly is a God ,Nicole ,and I hope you are abel to make peace with you life difficulties,. However, nobody has written how to go through life difficulties without experiencing some ups and downs along our journeys.
With Light, Peace, and Hope.
February 17th, 2009 at 9:16 am
You are going through the same thing as many in my church family. Nicole, please read and say over and over the prayer that Devon wrote above. The Devil test us in many ways. He wants you to be in misery, God wants us happy. Such conflict. Sometime we must give up the material things in life to gather others. I have not ever had a bad thing happen to me that something good or better came from it. Trust in the Lord Your God, put this in his hands and I assure you with time, you will be alright. It was very hard for me to turn my life over to the Lord 50 years ago, I did it a little at a time. Being the MAN of my house I had to be in control, sometimes in life you need to give it up, to the Lord, as he is with us always. (I am not talking about being saved and baptised, I am saying pray Gods will and let it happen.) Then the devil is unhappy and good things start to happen. God bless you, I pray for you. Oh, tell your husband to put his faith and trust in the Lord also. Your husband has got to be feeling real bad about losing his job and feeling all the families problems are his. Tell each other you LOVE each other when you first get up and that you LOVE each other no matter what happens when you go to bed. If both of you put your faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, leave it in his scarred hands, you will be alright.
February 17th, 2009 at 5:46 pm
dear friend i need help, my life is fallen apart.I don’t know where to turn, I have very low energy and i don
t want to be on earth any more. everything is bad, my kids are suffering and sometimes i feel they would better without me. I don
t know where else to turn .I’ve tried everything psycologist, doctors,church. nothings working.HELP!”
February 22nd, 2009 at 4:36 am
If need to get some money up towards a new car try http://www.fundable.org you may find some good people willing to help you out financially. If I can find you on there I will donate what I can but I am only a student I won’t be able to give much. I wouldn’t recommend it as your official plan but you may be lucky
March 4th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
Dear Nicole,
Read “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace D. Wattles. If you are Catholic, say the Rosary every day and implore the help of Saint Joseph, Saint Anthony, Saint Jude, Saint Micheal and Saint Benedict. Turn away from any thought that is negative no matter how bad it is - this takes practice, but it is possible. If you are not Catholic pray the strongest prayer of your religion each day. If possible, set aside 1 hour for yourself each day to just sit, go for a walk, or whatever and during that hour think of nothing. Put everything out of your mind. Remember, you can not control your situation, and your situation can not control you. If you can’t spare an hour, make it half an hour or 10 minutes or 5. In reference to your cat and your mom, for whom I will pray, go online and appeal to the medical community for good solid advice, but remember you can not MAKE them be OK, you can just offer help. Pray for your husband, and keep your eye on the job market. A job exists for him. It doesn’t matter what the economy is like, it all depends on what you believe. Take all advice with a grain of salt and listen to your heart and intuition. That is God speaking to you. If you do not take care of yourself first, you will not be able to help others. Right now, get your menus together and start eating in a way that will help your health. Each morning when you wake up, begin the day by saying “Thank you Lord, for all you do for me and my family”. When faced with an awful moment, repeat this phrase, even if the walls are falling down around you. You must develop a kind of pig-headed attitude that everything will be alright even when all around you say differently. Remember the sister of Lazarus. She believes that Jesus can make her brother alright, even though he has already passed. That is a story of faith, no matter what religion you are. Believe, and what you believe will be so. Look for the book I mentioned on Amazon.com if you can’t find it in the library. It’s cheap.
In low moments, pick up the Bible and open to a random page and read a ramdom quote. The psalms and Isaiah are the best. God Bless and Feel Good.
March 7th, 2009 at 6:58 pm
Dear Nicole,
I can relate to your situation. About a year and a half ago I lost both my cat and my Mom within a month of each other. We were having money problems due to the medical bills and had only one broken little car to move my big family around.
A little over a year later and my life has completely turned around. Here I am, still alive and blessed by God. I still think about my mom all the time, but I rejoice knowing she is in a better place. My family now owns three cars and money is no longer an issue.
I’ll be praying for you. Never give up hope - never lose your faith.
March 17th, 2009 at 8:30 pm
Dear God,
Thank you for today. I know I don’t say this much, but I am happy with my life. It may not be perfect, but if it were, I may not remember you. How sad would that be? Thank you for the good days, where being happy is easier. Thank you for the bad days too, for I know they don’t last, and a better day always comes.
Talk to you again soon.
Love,
me
March 19th, 2009 at 4:40 pm
so wait let me get this straight…..
u have a mother..
u have a husband…
u have a cat…
look at the positives
March 30th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret
Be in Joy now and everything will change
In the moment that I discovered The Secret I realized that I had been living my entire life backwards. If things were good in my life, I was happy. If things were difficult in my life and everything was going wrong, I was stressed and miserable. In my ignorance, I had been misusing the law of attraction all of my life. But all of that changed when I had the knowledge of The Secret.
To live in accordance with The Secret and the most powerful law in the Universe, we must be in Joy first - and then everything will change. To live our lives by emotionally reacting to what is happening outside of us is misusing the law! As we react with negative emotion to any difficulties, we attract more negativity into our lives. We cannot defy the law of attraction, which operates on the most microscopic levels of vibration, and with absolute exactitude.
You must be in Joy first. And then your life will change into Joy.
Difficult times are the greatest opportunities in disguise. When we face difficult times we have to put in determined work to get ourselves into Joy. But let me tell you, when you can get yourself into Joy despite what is happening around you, your life must change - it’s the law!
In addition, as you become Joy in difficult times you are becoming the master of your emotions, the master of your life, and the master of the law of attraction. Difficult times are your greatest opportunity to practice yourself into Joy.
Of course if your life is going along swimmingly then it is very easy to be in Joy. During those times your Joy is most likely a reaction to the good times. But the magnificence and the power that you really have within you will be seen when you can be in Joy during difficult times. It is then that you will see the true power that you have within you, because as you hold to Joy, you will shift all the energies of the Universe, and your life and your world will change.
The cause of everything is within you, and the effect is what you experience in your life. You have the power within you to change everything by putting yourself in Joy. You can change everything so easily by becoming Joy first! And nothing can change until you get yourself in Joy, because that is the law of attraction. Like attracts like! The energy of Joy attracts energy of Joy!
Do whatever it takes to find your Joy, and then keep yourself in it no matter what. Keep ramping up your level of Joy every day. There is no limit to the levels of Joy you can reach. You will see change to the degree of Joy that you can attain and maintain. The higher the Joy you can create within you, the more spectacular the change, and the higher the Joy, the faster the change. Once you get yourself in Joy it is easy to maintain it, because your emanation of Joy attracts more Joy. The law of attraction will continually send you more feelings of Joy.
You cannot criticize or blame or complain when you are in Joy. You cannot be afraid when you are in Joy. You cannot speak negatively when you are in Joy. You cannot harm another when you are in Joy. Negativity cannot reach you when you are in Joy.
When you are in Joy you are compassionate. When you are in Joy you are considerate and caring. When you are in Joy you love others. When you are in Joy you appreciate everything. When you are in Joy you are in love with the world, and the Universe is in love with you.
Be in Joy. Seek it with all of your heart, and you will find it.
May the Joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne
The Secret… bringing Joy to billions
April 26th, 2009 at 4:40 pm
Dear Nicole–I feel for you, I really do. The first thing that I noticed is you must get the diabetes under control–you must–that is priority and will take care of some of the other troubles–
The other thing and it may not help you right now but it may give some understanding. Ev eryone that is going thru something will be a guide to help others get thru–sorta like the underground railroad–you can’t show somebody where and how to go unless you’ve been there yourself. I pray that you have understanding and peace–supernatural peace—you’ll be a champion of overcomers. do this. Find a Word and stand on it and don’t let go of it–remind God of His promises–don’t take no for an answer—His promises are yes and amen.
May 2nd, 2009 at 5:26 pm
dear god im asking for help from the life i live. i do alot of things i regret and want change i am praying to you because i need you to guide me to a better future. amen
June 19th, 2009 at 7:02 pm
You need to try and think more about yourself for a moment. You say you try and look after others, how about yourself ?
Write a list of EVERYTHiNG you are qrateful for. Then, write another list of thinqs that you love/thinqs that make you happy. And finally make a playlist of sonqs you love, music that makes you feel qood. Look over this list everytime you feel neqative or upset. Trust me, it works !
We love you. ( Also, I do not believe in Jesus, no effense (: )
- Jessie, 14.
July 2nd, 2009 at 6:38 am
Nicole, I happened across your posting today quite by accident. When I read it, my heart went out to you - we share so many concerns, so much heartache. I prayed for you and your family and I KNOW that God will see you through all of these problems because I know that He is bigger than anything you put before Him. There is nothing greater or grander or stronger or more faithful than our dear Heavenly Father. I know your heart aches for your mom and your husband and your beloved pets. I know your worries and cares and daily struggles. I honestly don’t think that there are many in this world today who don’t understand how frightening our current times can be. But I also know that God is faithful to us. I know that He cares and I know that He hears us. I’ll continue to lift you all up in prayer and I hope that you will find your joy again. My dear sister in Christ, I care about you. Many Blessings, Susan
July 18th, 2009 at 5:30 pm
Hi Nicole,
Perhaps only I understand how you feel. I know exactly the pains you face. I am unemployed and fighting the most vicious wife that Satan had to offer, I pay $50,000-$60,000 a year to lawyers, the soon to be ex stole all of our of our community money, hoarded all of her money and lived mostly off of my income. I was unemployed often, she demanded and threatened me to make me miserable as hell if I didnt put her name on my property when we were married, she fought me every day in order to steal my assets, and I gave in. She only married me to steal my money, and she has so far successfully done so. She is a demon from hell. She spend all of her time thinking of ways to cheat me out of money that rightfully belongs to me. I dont want all the money, but I do want justice and fairness that the law brings to others but not so far to me. Does anybody here have any idea what its like to never experience justice. I have been cheated out of everything that I owned, everything that I had worked for, every kindness that I offered had come back to me in savage cruelty, never to receive anything but injustice and evil in return. I am fighting the swine flu and have not yet been able to overcome it. I can see because she stole my glasses. Yes I can walk, but never without pain. I can afford to eat much so dont get 3 meals a day like most do. I wonder if I too may be on the next street corner begging for change. I used to buy the homeless people food all the time, now I will be the homeless guy.
My ex wife has broken in to my moms house, my house, and always treated me nastily because I loved people and even her. I fought for support in court, but her lawyer lied to keep me from getting any, my lawyer had no idea what to do and he lost for me, and only had to say to me that he had never seen that happen before. I am headed to bankrupcy. I paid $5800 this month to the new lawyer with a credit card. My mom misplaced the credit card payment when I was at her house, I was almost charged $150 for finance charges and penalties. I live most every day with some amount of pain in my legs and back. I almost died in a fire in my home because my oven did not turn off and stayed on for over 24 hours.
I know people say you just have to forgive, have you even ever met Satan, do you forgive him? Are you willing to take his place in the eternal fire because you forgive him? Forgiveness is right, but if you have yet to experience overwhelming pain where you are willing to commit suicide, because the pain is unbearable, then you dont know how much there is that needs to be forgiven, before making such a callous statement in the compassion of “let them eat cake”.
I do believe in God, and many of those responding here have no idea what the feeling of abandonment by God feels like. They have never really felt pain. Many of them talk about Job but have never read the book of Job, Job was once a very proud man and a poet, and he did suffer a great deal, but he had also great power and wealth. Life as Job or worse is more devastating than any of these people can imagine. It easy to say forgive to say love peace and compassion, but first give all that is good and receive all that is evil, before you understand the magnitude of what needs to be forgiven.
July 29th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
Nicole,
As I read your thoughts, my heart went out to you. Take care and trust in God. Please remember, “Sorrow may endureth for the night, but job commeth in the morning.”
I would also like to comment about Meks comment to you. I too went hrough a terrible divorce. I felt like my ex-husband was satan himself. To this day, I have never gone back to the town in which he still lives. I say to you , Mek, hang in there and don’t do anything that you will regret later. Just get through this divorce and stay far far away from her. There are good woman out there. Please don’t let this experience cause you to become greedy and mean. If you do, then she will have robbed you again. It can be so lonely if you shut people out.. God Bless.
August 16th, 2009 at 5:47 am
Please take this for what it’s worth…
I am nothing special and am also facing losing everything. I have been on an emotional roller coaster, as has been my wife. We have a 4 yr old and we can see the impact our stress is having on him.
I have been praying for a long time and recently shifted my prayers from “save us” to “help us accept”. I do not understand why, but it may be His will for us to go through this. Perhaps there is no turing this around - for reasons we simply do not understand today. I am praying for us to accept this. Gradually, we can feel the burden of stess being lifted. Somehow, we are finding joy in our humility. We’re not giving up on lilfe, just trusting we’re doing the best we can.
Please don’t get me wrong. We also have our very bad days. But, we seem to have found a path back, through acceptance of our plight. Sometimes, I can actually go so far as to assume the worst possible outcomes and embrace them all.
For me, the more I have prayed for things and events around us to be better, the more anguish I feel when it doesn’t happen. Embracing our fate (for me) seems to allow me to let go of the anger and return to my faith. In my life have noticed so many people much better, kinder, generous, etc.than me who have much less. It doesn’t seem fair, so I am learning to let go of my sense of “justice” because there does not seem to be any in this world.
I hope you can find something in my learnings that might help you cope. My heart goes out to you…
warmest regards,
mm
November 8th, 2009 at 11:35 pm
Nicole,
Looks like you in the same boat as my wife and I we have not had a break in 6 years , from losing all our money when our business went bankrupt to not having jobs , in fact both of us were unemployed over Christmas last year, we cried and felt sorry for ourselves but someone special phoned me and said “Kneel down and Pray , thank God for all the good things now Get up move forward” take little steps set achievable goals first work out a plan to pay the debt then set goals in your personal life.” God wants to help you Get UP Learn from you bad experiences and use that knowledge the next time God set you a hurdle to jump over eventually like baking a cake we get the recipe right.
My Wife and I might lose the house this year , but we looking forward to moving to a new neighborhood in a RENTAL, IT NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.
God Bless
November 16th, 2009 at 5:12 pm
Hello This is the first time I come to you for some help. I am disable and right now my income that I have will not cover christmas for sure. My 11yr old daughter is my life and she has always had a christmas that made her happy but this time it will not be that way. Right now I gotten bad new of my health and now this. She is a good child and has been very good in school and always helps out the elderly neighbor that live in the place I live. she doesn’t deserve to be empty handed. So with your help or a miracle please help me make my daughter christmas special. God bless.
November 18th, 2009 at 7:15 pm
God help my husband he is in troube near to loose his job
please god look at him as i stand before you just to pray for him
i love my husband he is very good person he love his family most caring most ,but always his truth make him suffer
kindly give him good relation with his boss let them accept him as one of their company
thank you god i believe you will work on my prayer and you will help him and give piece of mind
I be believe everything is possible to you my lord jesus
Amen
November 20th, 2009 at 4:56 am
You are not alone. This is the game of life. Yes, sometimes we get tired of playing it, or tired of playing the same part. May be we’ve been playing it wrong all this time! My husband I are tired too. But, I’m with you Nicholas…hope there’s room in the rental units for me and my family…which, after all else is gone, is the one blessing I still have!! Thank you god for my husband and kids. They are my reason to get up and start a fresh day, with a “Thank you for this day god”. In this day and age we worked so hard to gain material goods and forgot to enjoy the “presents/gifts” that god gave us to enjoy (we didn’t even have to pay or work for them). I believe this is an opportunity to enjoy gods gifts now and let “him/her” take care of the rest!!!
November 30th, 2009 at 6:58 pm
Dear god,
I need help from you,God I am marry with one Person but he is not in my caste.my parents don’t know about my married life .My Husband don’t have own house & Perfect job.I also don’t have Perfect job.I want to purchase new home but i don’t have much money.i am so thence about my secret married Life & My future,
when i alone i thick i will die my life,i am going for the new job i am not selected please help me
March 15th, 2010 at 2:01 pm
Good points…I would note that as someone who really doesn’t write on blogs much (in fact, this may be my first post), I don’t think the term “lurker” is very becoming to a non-posting reader. It’s not your fault really , but perhaps the blogosphere could come up with a better, non-creepy name for the 90% of us that enjoy reading the content .