Dear God,
I made a horrible mistake. I asked you to help me get over an ex that I’m still in love with, that broke my heart. Well I didn’t get over him but I have been spending time away from hm and it’s been great. The only problem is that I recently starting hanging out with his brother and we slept together. It was a drunken mistake and I really feel horrible about the entire thing.I wanted to tell the ex but I figured that I should let his brother do that. The brother doesn’t want to tell him now but I can’t live with this. It’s all I can think about and this sounds stupid but I’m really not this kind of person. I know that I’m the one that screwed up and that I need to deal with it but a little help would be greatly appreciated. I just don’t want this terrible mistake to ruin my ex’s relationship with his brother and if my ex and I could come out of all this as friends that would be great too, but I wouldn’t want ask for too much. Truthfully more than anything else I just want them to be okay and I want to get through this.
Thanks for everything. Betsy, Virginia/USAShare:
June 12th, 2008 at 1:42 am
… the brother made the same mistake.
June 12th, 2008 at 5:07 pm
You go girfriend! The best way to get OVER him, is to get UNDER his bruva. Booyah! PS Go Jeebus.
June 19th, 2008 at 12:38 pm
Sleep with their dad, then ye shall be cured.
July 14th, 2008 at 1:06 am
Hi,
My suggestion is to put it behind you. It felt right at the time when you were with his brother. It was an experience that I gather you don’t want to repeat again. Learn from it and move on. Let the brothers deal with thier own relationship. Most of all forgive yourself. You’re one of God’s creations and he loves you.
August 1st, 2008 at 11:39 am
Betsy,
Come on, honey. We’ve all been drunk and we can still make responsible choices. You are, of course an active participant in the act, but the brother is a real gem for taking advantage of you at such a vulnerable time. On the other hand, maybe it’s the bro you should be with. BTW, which one was better?
xo,
Billy
September 4th, 2008 at 10:44 pm
Some comments here are completely insensitive. To be honest, I don’t know what to do. I think sleeping with someone is bad, but you know what? It happened.
God made a way so we could all be loved if we accepted it. Ask for forgiveness (i mean, serious forgiveness) and you’ll be forgived, but you have to forgive yourself to. Your heat seems good, it was a mistake.
U were hurt, and it seemed alright at the time. We make mistakes, what happens it what we do after them. The devil wants to drag you down, but refuse to accept it. Abundant life is for you. Don’t let the devil steal away what God wants to give you.
God loves you. Be strong, move on.
September 16th, 2008 at 3:24 pm
OKay sweety.
Look i get it you feel bad but honestly everyone makes mistakes and it’s how we learn!
we are only human and we make mistakes but it’s how you correct and learn from your mistake that makes you who you are.
My advice is you need tou get rid of both these brothers in your life because they are doing nothing but craeting a negative energy for you.
xx
Eden-Denika
P.S- dont listen to that Steph girl she hasn’t got a clue and i find her rather judgemental.
September 23rd, 2008 at 5:39 pm
I understand how you feel. I would advise that you make your peace with God and not tell your ex.
It doesn’t help him to confess your “sin”. It would only hurt him irreparably and his relationship with his brother.
Not worth it. You are doing the right thing by seeking out forgiveness with God and making sure you don’t
make that mistake again. It does happen. It’s not the end of the world. It’s just better when we don’t do things that hurt
others. Don’t hurt him twice. Good luck!
November 26th, 2008 at 4:19 pm
I just came across your post, and my thoughts on this is that brothers are brothers. What happened between you and the brother would most likely not create a huge rift between them. I say this considering that you said your ex broke your heart, and what did the brother do? Go ahead and allow a situation occur which compromised you as well as his relationship with his brother.
I really do understand and feel you. Things happen. We make decisions that are not the best for us. It happens to all of us. ALL OF US. And I find that the hardest part of the healing process is to reconcile with oneself the mistakes we’ve made to hurt ourselves. That said, I hope that you are in a better place now and have taken these two people out of your life. You’re not losing anything.