Dear God,
I am sorry for watching porn. I really am.This is just something that is really hard for me to give up right now.
Please don’t stop loving me. I don’t want to be punished anymore. My family and I can’t take it.
Cat Von D, Chicago/USA
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April 25th, 2008 at 2:40 pm
I feel you. I really do. And I promise that if you feel God’s love, you won’t feel punished. And when you give it up, it will be far harder to want it back. I hope you find the strength in the moment to overcome the urges and satisfy the deep desires. I hope God gives it to you. Because He has given it to me.
April 25th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
Dear God, I promise to give up watching porn. So please, can you get Maria Ozawa to make more wholesome videos?
April 26th, 2008 at 1:12 am
Mercies are new every morning.
Just breathe
April 26th, 2008 at 7:22 am
Its understandable, especially given how guilty our culture and how most religions make one feel regarding anything sexual. But, just like most other things, the real key is to not let it rule your life. Looking at it is one thing, being obsessed and addicted is when it really gets bad. It can be good, it can help relieve tension. Just don’t substitute it and live in a fantasy world. It can be a fine-line.
Regards,
Darth Cædeus
April 26th, 2008 at 9:13 am
I feel bad too. Every time I watch it; I look to the ceiling and say “I’m sorry.”
April 26th, 2008 at 4:16 pm
Take a deep breath. And realize. You were created as a sexual being, among many other wonderful things. You were created to be perfectly imperfect. You were meant to experience this conflict. But you need not get stuck in it. Sexuality is a power, and therefore you have a choice how to use it. Use it to heal and help, and not to hurt, and there will be no need to apologize. To anyone.
April 27th, 2008 at 12:52 pm
dude, i have some good news for you. god does not care if you watch porn! enjoy.
April 27th, 2008 at 11:42 pm
If it helps you from doing anything “bad” in real life, do it all you want. If it wasn’t for porn I think there would be more rapes, etc.
April 28th, 2008 at 1:31 am
Oh puhlease!
I’m starting to get bored. Note to dear god crew, please come up with more controversial messages so everyone can start fighting and threatening each other. Now THAT would be entertainment..
I f you are really worried about ze porno, check your babble (bible) for the g-mans word on da issue.
(yawn)
April 28th, 2008 at 2:41 pm
I struggled with this a lot before I came to college and came to terms with my own sexuality, you’ll find out, your doing nothing wrong, just use logic. God knows your not perfect, and its natural to want to look, just dont make it ur life.
and to the above post, go troll some place else, this isnt a forum for your entertainment.
April 28th, 2008 at 7:06 pm
I don’t really have any answers for you man. I did it for ten years. Now it’s freakin wired to my brain and every time I see porn its like I get a high all over again. The only way I got free of it (5 months now) was when I found something I cared about more. It was a choice between porn and the real relationship I’ve been chasing. What I had to do is tell someone (someone who I didn’t want to know about it) that I had a problem and then set up a system so that every time I looked at porn it would be reported to that person. It sounds cheap, I know, but for me it was a habit and getting away from it somehow, even if its just because of the fear of being caught, made a world of difference. Try XXXChurch.com they have a program that “tells on you” when you look at porn. If you want to get away from it you have to bite the bullet and tell someone, then ask for their help. It can be done.
April 29th, 2008 at 8:53 am
Don´t punish yourself for something like this! we are just teenagers, we need a litle porn man!
April 30th, 2008 at 2:28 am
You should masturbate everyday, its healthy. Enjoy the porn just don’t let it be an addiction
April 30th, 2008 at 3:16 am
Will it be healthy, Tom, when it makes your hands hairy and strike you blind?
April 30th, 2008 at 5:08 am
is porn health food for the soul? probably not. but be careful about the whole shame thing, in a way that I don’t completely understand…when you get something all wrapped up in a big shame drama it sorta increases the addictive aspects. cut yourself some slack, take the whole drama down a notch, don’t be in a hurry, and you’ll find a way to put it in its proper place. peace, bro…
April 30th, 2008 at 12:07 pm
Remember, no matter what we do, “God loves you anyway”, this is not a pretext to sin but to let go of that guilty Conscience you have over trivial shit. God loves you anyway.
April 30th, 2008 at 1:27 pm
Its good that you realise and are prompted by the Holy Spirit that what you are doing is not pleasing to God. He understands that we are human beings and we are sinful creatures but there are also several verses in His Living Word (the bible) that says we should not have lustful thoughts and we should flee temptation (not play with fire). Watching porn is wrong in God’s eyes because of the lustful thoughts that result from it.
However, there is also no guilt and condemnation in Jesus. Repent and ask Him to help you with this. I know many people who have been able to break an addiction and habit after surrendering it to God. He can remove the desire from you heart for it if you geniunely want to stop.
May 1st, 2008 at 3:42 pm
The more you beat off, the more you’ll stress about it, then you’ll beat off again, then you’ll stress again, then beat again…
Don’t stress! Porn’s great, masturbation’s fantastic, its human, you’re hurting nobody. Just get some air every once in a while horndog.
May 2nd, 2008 at 1:41 am
First, it is OK to have sexual feelings. It is normal to masturbate and it is a sin against humanity to make somebody feel guilty for having sexual feelings. As Jimmy said, you aren’t hurting anyone; enjoy it.
The problem with porn is that it objectifies women. Visit some high-quality nude photography sites and before long you’ll get bored with porn for purely aesthetic reasons. Try Googling “simple nudes”.
Sexuality is Ok but it is a subset of beauty, not a superset.
May 2nd, 2008 at 1:44 am
Hey you who posted the prayer:
Im really scared for what’s going on in people’s head when they proclaim their right to look at porn (as ome of the people have done here)!
My boyfriend has this addiction, it’s nothing to play with, and he would get his right arm not to have these memories today.
I didn’t want this in my relationship and I’ve struggled to forgive him, there is nothing good with looking at porn. It destroys your image of love, sex and relationships and it destroys everything you need.
If you don’t have a relationship, dont take this shortcut looking at porn, in the end you will regret it (if you’re normal), and if you regret it, seek help (it’s worth it!!!!). One of the worst things you can do is to continue without asking somebody for help. Not everyone understand this kind of problematic, but the shame-feeling is a good indication about things aren’t well and you need help (not from a forum like this when people don’t know what they’re talking about).
If you’re in a relationship you should first of all tell you partner. When you look with lust on somebody else than your partner, you’ve broken your relationonship and your partner have the right to brake up with you, but if you start to work with this, asking people for help etc, it will loose its strength and you’ll be set free…
I pray deep from my heart that Jesus set you totally free. Take care!
May 2nd, 2008 at 8:25 am
I’m a porn addict too.
I don’t know why. I’m a girl too, so it’s even stranger. I don’t even feel I can admit to watching porn, let alone tell someone I need help because of it.
I’ve always been very sexual, and this has been away for me to deal without without running around banging everything that moves. But now it’s taking up my social and work time, and distracting in my life. I know this means i need help.
I just hope I can be strong enough to go down the path of healing to learn why and to stop it.
But it’s so hard.
May 2nd, 2008 at 4:32 pm
To Anna Sophia,
What is normal to you? I ask myself while reading your post, do you know me? or anyone else on this forum? Are we friends in the real world? Do you have my phone number and we talk everyday? Well unless I’ve had a fierce case of amnesia over the past year I’d say that you don’t. So therefore, you don’t know mine, or anyone elses credentials on this situation. You must have the balls of a burglar to insult a whole forum of people without actually taking into account that these people may have qualifications way beyond you and your multiple misspellings. If a guy wants to look at pornography there is no wrong in doing it, as long as it doesn’t become an addiction I’m sorry your boyfriend is an addict, but no reason to try to scare someone into thinking its the worse thing in the world, I think being addicted to porn is one of the least destructive things that you can be addicted to.
May 2nd, 2008 at 4:56 pm
“We’d all be only so lucky to just be addicted to porn”
May 3rd, 2008 at 7:22 am
Try checking out http://www.xxxchurch.com. They are reaching out not only to those who are addicted but to those in the industry as well. They are moving mountains.
You’re not alone.
May 3rd, 2008 at 7:39 pm
It will drain your soul. It will steal intimacy between couples and create a fantasy world. To many people live a fantasy and forget there responsibilities.
I overeat, and I am on a diet. I have made the decision for my health to stop eating bad food and drinking lots of beer. I decided.
Your decision starts now. No condemnation for those who try.
May 4th, 2008 at 5:58 am
Wake up the only thing that is punishing you is your guilt
May 7th, 2008 at 4:53 am
let me guess its okay as long as its not GAY porn, religion is a joke. wake up people.
May 8th, 2008 at 6:47 pm
At least the porn industry is “going green”…
May 10th, 2008 at 2:02 am
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May 10th, 2008 at 3:57 pm
Soft-core and strait porn.
NOTHING wrong with watching it. MASTURBATION is very normal.
May 13th, 2008 at 3:29 am
Hi Cat,
I sometimes have same problem as you, and i used to regret after i did it which was really painful. The simple technique i use is i don’t regret and I don’t swear to stop, but instead i take it as normal and forgive myself. forgiving yourself is the most important thing u can do. As much as possible stay away from temptation and Pray to God to help you.
cheers!!
May 14th, 2008 at 3:30 pm
anna likes porn
May 19th, 2008 at 7:13 am
please check out xxxchurch.com. this is not a link to porn. it is a nonprofit organization that helps with porn addiction.
June 14th, 2008 at 8:41 am
That was Cat Von D, must have been a joke. Find your own truth if not. I think God is life inside of you, and you know what is right or wrong. Be aware and change
June 22nd, 2008 at 10:01 pm
Cat Von D,
First of all, I can relate totally to what you are experiencing. I’ve felt guilt & torment at watching it, and also at wasting time on it when i could have been doing better, more useful and enjoyable things with my life. I know what it’s like to look at it from a religious point of view, and from the other side. I understand the addiction that porn can be, and how it can take over your life- quite often when you are bored/ procrastinating (from my personal experience). Something I think you should do, is try to be as busy with other things as you can- have a new hobby, meet new people, learn a sport/music/language etc- something that will make you feel good and more fulfilled that porn ever could. Or make sure that someone is always around, so that you don’t feel inclined to look at it.
Porn is truly degrading to women, and although one could argue that aspects of it are educational with respect to sexual techniques- I think the lesson that I’ve truly learned from it is that it can never substitute for a real relationship (unless you are purely lust-driven and seek no interaction with the rest of the world). There is no emotion behind it, no love, no tenderness, no intellect. All you hear are grunts, moans, dirty talk; all you see are unrealistic, fake situations that are probably filmed in a seedy studio somewhere. There is nothing intimate or mentally stimulating about it. It’s all about sex, rarely kissing/intimate looks- ironically, movie love scenes are 500% better. Porn is just business, and everything is just an act (poorly acted most of the time).
I’m not sure what your purpose is in watching it..whether it is to work out your sexuality, or just for enjoyment, or just for curiosity. I have wondered about my sexuality before, but now I felt quite content with who I am.
Don’t make it a habit to watch it- there is so much more that you can do with your time e.g. activities that make you feel wholesome/refreshed/enlightened. However, eventually you are the judge of what you choose to do. I won’t admit to being perfect about it, but do realise that you are human and you are here to learn from mistakes and to better yourself in life. And if Eve didn’t bite the apple and sin, Adam & Eve would never have procreated and then where would we be?(not that i’m advocating you go out and start sinning away). Only you can decide what to do/feel. I wish you all the best.
July 15th, 2008 at 12:57 pm
I have same problem with you. For me, I ever think that addicting with porn websites is not big problem and do not care too much about it. However, I found that this behavior steal my creative thinking inside me. I firstly surfed in many free porn websites and, then, I paid to them with my credit card. Finally, after I lose my money, I realize that I should not enter this porn website again. There are many fun and creative website that I should be enter and enjoy them.
I suggest you to create your own website such as beautiful poetry, food, activities, etc. and you will find that website is a wonderful place to make creative things.
September 9th, 2008 at 3:48 pm
if there’s a GOD …….. I’m sure that he watch porn all the time, everyday, at any time…….in fact this space could be PORN right, telling others our problems, and watching the “insides” of others is one of the most pornographic acts of humans…….
October 4th, 2008 at 7:11 am
totally agree with Teagen, it would be all much easy.
October 16th, 2008 at 3:59 am
Keep praying to God and ask Him to help you overcome this problem. He will definitely give a way to you! God will forgive you only if you’ve confess your sins! God will not stop loving you because you are very precious in God’s eye, He will give a way out because he simply loves you!
December 5th, 2008 at 2:16 pm
the chick on the left has a nice ass, i’d tap that any day.
December 17th, 2008 at 7:55 am
Do everything you can to stop looking @ porn. Someone else mentioned xxxchurch which you should really look at. This will kill your relationship if you are in one. My husband is addicted to porn, he always lies to me and he thinks I believe his lies. He tries to make me feel like the guilty one. I can tell that I’m falling out of love with him. He has reaped what he has sown. He’s broken my heart so many times that my heart is slowly being killed. I find it very difficult to care about him anymore…and I used to be absolutely head over heels in love with him. I just have very little feeling for him left. He doesn’t care about me, clearly, so I don’t care about him. This is an awful situation to be in. Getting a divorce would cause an enormous amount of problems for both of us. God is the only man to be trusted!
March 30th, 2009 at 9:23 am
I found this website looking for help with a different problem but stumbled over this whil I was still distraught with my sins.
I really struggle with pornography. My christian college has many interent filters in place but I still know how to find and get access to stuff they have not blocked yet.
I dont really know what to say. I feel like crying with you because I know how much watching porn has ruined my life. I dont have any answers and I dont have any insights as how to quit.
All I know is that I feel so dirty and like I want to hurt myself to make myself stop. I feel like I have a cancer inside me and I just want to rip it out!
I dont have a relationship with God and at times I dont even feel he exists but he needs to exist because he is the only one who can help me and save me from myself.
“God is with you. He is mighty to save…. he will rejoice over you with singing.” (Zephaniah 3:17)
God wants to lift us out of the gutter, he wants to cloth us in his robe of righteousness and when reach out to him and let him pull us up from the dark places in our life he will sing joyous songs of how we have finally come home to be with him.
I want God to help me. I dont know what you are looking for but I do know that God is on the look out for you. He wants to lift us out of our dark ways and he wants to sing songs of love and joy for us.
June 22nd, 2009 at 4:01 pm
Okay. Look. Lust is a sin. When you look or think about porn, you lust over the people in it. SO GET OVER THIS “IT CAN ONLY BE STRAIGHT OR SOFTCORE” OR “YOU’RE JUST A TEENAGER”. To god its the same. When you give to him he doesnt measure in numbers, he measures in percentage. When you love, you love everyone with an open heart. The same with sin. Its just as bad if a married guy does it or if a five year old does it.
September 13th, 2009 at 4:34 am
god loves porn
November 24th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
I firmly believe that people who frequently engage in the act of sexually exploring themselves and others will find themselves ahead of their peers when it comes to practicing safe sex. Use a condom. Masturbate. Free your inner urges, and do not bottle up or suppress your feelings. This is unhealthy for the body and mind, and after observing the behaviour of primates, we find that as cousins, we are very similar to them in our nature. They masturbate and engage in sexual activity with each other. If it was unhealthy to masturbate, these primates would suffer from terrible diseases. Kevin Trudeau, a world renowned physiologist, physician, and financial adviser, suggests that telling yourself that anything you are doing is wrong, it is unhealthy in nature for your mind. When you begin to think, “This is simply nature, and it feels good to masturbate,” you will learn quickly the beneficial mental effects that are produced from this. Masturbating is like eating cake. You may or may not be on a diet. That depends. But it is important to allow yourself the freedom of indulging yourself without guilty pleasure. These following are numbered best case scenarios to worst case scenarios, if someone were to offer you a slice of cake.
1. You say, “No thank you,” simply because you do not want any cake.
2. You say, “Why thank you,” and eat the cake. You put your diet aside for now.
3. You say, “No, I don’t want it,” even though you really do want it, but you are denying yourself because you are on a diet.
4. You think to yourself, “No, I can’t eat it, I am on a diet,” and struggle with the decision, then finally break down and eat the cake, and hate yourself for doing it.
This is an extremely similar phase frequented by people who masturbate. You can clearly see that a diet is not a good thing. A diet, in this case, is believing in God, following Christian rites and traditions, and disbelieving the fact that natural human behaviour is the thing that is staring you in the face, telling you to just masturbate. But you don’t want to, because you are on that diet. The diet is a curse, an idea that holds you back, and nothing more. Not accepting scientific theory and improving on it, and believing in silly magical invisible father figures in the sky is something which holds us back as a species. You are killing yourself. Wake up. Grip your penis, and gently glide with your hand up and down. The Ten Commandments never really existed. It was a bullshit way to control stupid, ignorant people like yourselves, your parents, their parents, and their parents. Break yourself from a diet that tells you to eat up ignorance and drink up “science free” shakes, grab a hold of your life, and tell these people who tell you that you are wrong and they are right with no proof, “NO.”