Dear God,
On July 5th 2006, I cheated on my wife of 13 years.
So willing to have a different life, I left everything behind that I had built on for 20 years to be with this woman. After 3 months, I am in the cold with no where to go and jobless. I turned to drinking for a whole year, further destroying my life. I re-met a woman I had dated when I was a teen and moved in with her. Now a year later, I am miserable with no place to go. I am still with her but, my life has been falling apart for almost 3 years.
God, I prayed you would open a door for me to get out of all this, but things worsened,so I stopped that prayer. Sin has taken me way farther than I ever wanted to go and now, it seems as though there is no escape. Sure, I could just walk out, but to where? God, I am battle weary and looking for an escape. Forgive me and help me back to you without losing the little bit of comfort I do have left.
Bobby - Canada
December 26th, 2008 at 4:54 am
hello…
i am so sorry for you… but i hope things will get better… sometime… bad things happen for some good reason… i cant explain bout that and i think that its kinda cliche… but pls dont give up and stop praying… if u have faith to ur god and u pray hard enough… things will get better.. just be patient and the best is yet to come
December 26th, 2008 at 7:37 am
I think it’s a decision to get out and go to somewhere else
But there will requires a change.
And that change will take away your bit of comfort (temporary) and will bring you to the next level in life.
And you will have more comfort:). Before you know that.
You are already there:)
So be strong and accept changes,my friend
December 29th, 2008 at 2:50 pm
I truly hope everything gets better for you. We have all sinned and we all deserve redemption.
January 1st, 2009 at 5:04 pm
Bobby,
I was the one who got cheated on by my husband of 14 years. Have you tried to reconcile with your wife? I know that I have already forgiven my ex and I still love him deeply even after all the hurt that was caused by his actions. Don’t lose faith in the Lord for he does provide all things good for those who love HIM. God can and will bring about change to Glorify His Name. Be patient and don’t give up!!
Michele
January 2nd, 2009 at 3:29 am
Forgive you? Who? You mean your life?
You screwed up.
You turned to drinking. You prayed. Now what?
Get a goddamn job. Start saving. Drink only if you have at least a month salary in your bank account.
Wake the hell up man.
January 5th, 2009 at 11:40 am
Dear Nick,
Don’t feel so guilty for yourselves bro.. I realize you know what is good and what is bad and you know you have done something bad. Pray for forgiveness and God won’t count anything against you… God will open you a door if you truly believe and ask for it. May god bless and have a wonderful new year ahead.
January 5th, 2009 at 11:41 am
Dear Bobby,
Don’t feel so guilty for yourselves bro.. I realize you know what is good and what is bad and you know you have done something bad. Pray for forgiveness and God won’t count anything against you… God will open you a door if you truly believe and ask for it. May god bless and have a wonderful new year ahead.
January 8th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
great photo.
January 9th, 2009 at 8:48 am
Repent.
You can’t repent of your sins while living in sin with that woman.
God knows what you need and if you are willing to step out in faith and seek FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD & HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS, all these things will be given to You.
it’s time to get serious with God, not because of the misery you chose- but because it’s the right thing to do. You can do it as long as you allow God to, but you must remove the sin from your life. You MUST remove the weight if you want to be free to walk forward. Nothing is impossible with God.
January 17th, 2009 at 2:06 pm
This is happening to you because of decisions you made. It is great you are turning to God, but you have to realize it takes time for things to turn around and God is not going to instantly help you unless He believes you have learned from your mistakes. I believe you need to make things right. You are STILL using people. If you are not in love with the woman you are currently with, you are still being deceitful. Try being independent and honest for once. Get an income, get your own home and stop using others.
January 23rd, 2009 at 5:08 am
You are a pathetic Loser!
January 24th, 2009 at 6:23 am
I have only one thing to say to u if u want help stop worrying. god will always watch wat happens to you. you are one of his many sons and the key is not to worry about the small things or big thing every thing happens for a reson an dthe closer you get to god the more the devil puts on temptasion. the devil doesnt want u close to god he wants u too be with him. as long as you know in your heart that god loves you. and you dont give up on him he wont give up on you. he knows wat the plane is for every day we leave. and he will always for give you for your sins no matter how bad it was and the truth is you cant sin and do it again its kina like crying wolf. you ask him for help and to keep you safe then you give into the devils words. it dont work that way iam not sorry for you like the rest of the people i have faith in god and hope in you that you will see the glories lite god shines on us every day and you wake up and smell the roses and pray until you cant pray no more turn over a new page and. get going on you new beautiful life that will come at the right time
January 26th, 2009 at 3:42 pm
It is hard to find the “X” on the map when you have no map.
A man without vision shall perish. You are slowly dying because you do not have vision, a course, a path to follow.
You must go to a large body of water and sit by it. Go there and leave your watch at home. Take pen and paper and write your goals in life creating a map. When you awake…. behold…
January 31st, 2009 at 3:53 pm
hey bro. um, wut you have been doing is of course not good. I have a question for ya, to you who is Jesus Christ? il let you know wut He means to me. He is my Savior, He is the WAY the TRUTH, and the LIFE. He is the only one worth living for! He is the only person to come back alive from the grave!!!! AND only person to die for the people He loved! there is more evidence that Jesus lived than the evidence we have that Abe Lincoln lived! He has saved me from Hell because I have accepted His free gift of salvation. If he isnt that to you, if you want il help you out. but know this, I love you with the love that Jesus Christ loves you. seek His face and He will not leave you out to dry. Im praying for you, im praying that God will touch your spirit and you will realize who you are before Him and that you need Him. well, im out bro!
March 7th, 2009 at 7:15 pm
Dear Bobby,
Go back to your wife of thirteen years and beg forgiveness. Do what you can to let her know you still love her. Show her your love. If you already tried this then may I suggest you take a break from the life you have been living. Try somewhere in Africa, help out in an orphanage for a few weeks. I’m not suggesting you run, just take a little break. Those orphans will show you love and gratitude. When you come home and have a clear mind you can think things through and see what other solutions the Lord may show you.
March 23rd, 2009 at 4:36 am
hallo
sometimes we feel that all things in life are out of control
and we can not do anything ,,and many happends brings pain ,and we do not understand the reasons why..
the first steep you have to do .to really ask your self..was this my really life i born for?
i was happy?
i really was in harmony by my self?
or i keep pressed my really feelings and always cover my life with other things ..so if not
the pressed energe of your life slowly become a vulcan ready to explotion
but how it could break all this path to make you change and give really what you need from life
life found solution becuase after all these will come your truth life
but this time do not less others to stolen your dream
you are master of your life and you go your self in success so spek with inner self and do what really needs to be happy
george
March 30th, 2009 at 3:21 pm
you left a little escape clause when you asked for God’s help, please help me but i don’t want to give up the little comfort i currently have…God wants to be your true comfort. when the God of the universe loving you and sending his son to die for you is not enough to comfort you, nothing ever will be. Do not worship a woman and look to her to fix your life. Worship the one who made you.
When you do that and you learn to “love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and soul… & love your neighbor as YOURSELF ( you must love you too….), then you will be able to seek first the kingdom of God and all these other things will follow….
Seek your first wife’s forgiveness, even if she has moved on, place her and yourself completely in God’s hands and let go.
God does love you and wants good things for you. Untill you let go and let him have your life you will keep missing them.
jer. 29:11. <3
April 5th, 2009 at 8:01 am
I am terribly sorry to tell you this my friend, but you brought this upon yourself. YOU must redeem it. there is no Barrack Obama wellfare plan that can bale you out. You dug a hole, you have more than payed the price, now you must take what you have now and make a better world with it. not only for yourself, but for the entire world. Good luck to you. And keep in mind that God not only knows everything that has happened, but he also knows how truly sorry you may be. you will have his love, and the love of all humanity if you simply do what I said. may peace and happiness follow you forever my friend.
April 22nd, 2009 at 3:03 am
God can remove your sins as far as the east is from the west but he rarely removes the consequences. Remember your wife and the pain and suffering that you have put her through and be truly repentant. Don’t just cry out to God for his pity sake but realize the hurt that you have caused others and pray for them.
God does allow us our free will and you took your own path away from him –the path that leads to destruction. You repeated that pattern yet once again and found yourself further down that slippery slope. God is just and He will avenge those who have been oppressed by your sinful choices.
Having said that cry out to God always. Truly repent and admit that you have done wrong. Turn from your wrong doing and do right. God may not be finished with His lesson for you yet. There may be worse to come but you must remain faithful and know that the suffering that you are encountering now is to redeem you from yourself and your sinful ways.
Show yourself to be righteous even amidst the suffering. Ask–plead for God to reform you so that this does not happen again. God will come to you but it will be in HIS time, not yours. You have proven yourself to be sinful and stubborn in your actions and God will change that but the sooner you truly repent and maintain a righteous spirit, the sooner God will trust in you.
Peace brother.
June 19th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
I’m so much younger than you, and the world is more complicated than I could understand.
But to me, you don’t always need someone. It sounds like women are markers in your life and the signals for change. But here’s a thought: you can turn your life around by yourself. Get a job, get your own place. Build up your life. You don’t need a woman to do that. In fact, I think that women don’t really help when you need to turn your life around, I bet she (whatever female is currently in your life) just nags you, rather than encourages you. And usually if women encourage you, they don’t kick your ass hard enough to actually get you moving.
So good luck.
And stop drinking so much, that’s no way to get a job, is a bad way of spending money, and doesn’t feel that hot the next morning.
June 20th, 2009 at 1:32 am
Everything we do, we get it back, is a karma thing, don´t blame your gods, blame yourselves.
September 1st, 2009 at 1:01 pm
Of course you want escape from your problems. Who wouldn’t. But you made them didn’t you, at each fork in the road you chose the path of least resistance. Time to stop the self pity, examine your behavior, make amends where necessary and get on with it. Self will, your will, has taken you to a sad and messed up place. Turn your will over to god as you understand him/her/it. Ask everyday day to know God’s will for you. If drink is a problem, it means you aren’t facing the truth of your actions and hiding in the brief respite of oblivion. Your situation won’t improve with a bottle. Go get help, join AA or something similar. Take responsibility for your actions and move on with life having learnt a valuable lesson.
September 18th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
Hey
i don’t know if you get to read this. the true test is here. DON’T STOP praying to God. Tell Him to help you change your life around.
i backslide from God for a few years, coz things were getting worse in my life, that i just stopped praying.
i got drew back to Him at the most unexplainable way, now with True Faith in Him, i am so so so taken aback with all the great things that came into my life.
Everything happens for a reasons.
the fact that you lost your wife, and your life. now you truly appreciate all things.
maybe you should apologize to your wife, drop all pride & ego of yours.
apologize not once, not twice. Until she forgives you, for as long as it takes. God will help you!!!!!!!
With an aim in your life, you’ll stand up in no time.
all e best!
November 5th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
There is more pain in looking back at what has gotten your life at the stage it is in, than the pain you went through to get you there. Although, I do not know the reason why you cheated, such things are usually caused out of pride, anger, or lacking something in the relationship. Whatever it was, it spread to other areas of your life.
With such a long term relationship, I do not believe that you cheated on a whim. I don’t so much believe in things like karma, more cause and effect. There is no mystical force that punishes you and continues to punish you when you have done something wrong. You made a choice, and it turned out to be a bad choice, which lead to other bad choices.
What you have to remember, is that god loves you - no matter what you do - no matter what choice you make. God will forgive you, heal you, and restore you, if you ask him. It may take time, it may be overnight, but you have to make the commitment to him, because he is and always has been committed to you.
I do not know what advise to give you that would help you along the way, but be patient, read at least one chapter from the bible everyday, and pray everyday. One of the best remedies I have always found, is not to concentrate on your own problems so much, but to take the time to give you time to charity. Volunteer at a church, a nursing home, etc. Spend some time with people who need your time.
The second thing that I have found that helps, is to improve yourself. Exercise, go back to school, or something else along those lines.
This in only one phase of your life, it doesn’t have to be the rest of your life.