Dear God,
It’s been nine years since you took my brother away from me. I always stop and stare at people who look like him. Is it wrong of me to pretend that he still exists? I wasn’t in the room when they turned off the life support but I still have the image in my head of just before. Is it okay if I don’t forgive you any time soon for this?
I just miss my brother, and life’s getting lonely lately.
Joseph, Philadelphia/USA 
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April 25th, 2008 at 5:21 am
god is big enough to take your frustration, anger, unforgiveness, hurt, and sorrow. he’s right around the corner. healing takes a while. hang in there, we all need to heal. he’s big enough to handle you being angry at him.
-k8
you are almost close enough to touch, philly is about 40 minutes from my house. hang in there.
it seems we’re all united in sorrow.
April 26th, 2008 at 2:09 am
i lost my sister 8 years ago, and i’ve just now realised she’s gone and what it means, it is so incredibly painful. i’d managed to supress the pain for this long, and now that i look around me, everyone in my life reflects her in some beautiful way.
but it’s not enough.
loss is lonely, because you have to go through it alone.
if it helps, imagine death is the gift of life, god saying well done you did well at life, now rest.
your time will come too, but it will be harder than what some others may go through. carry your pain on your face and let people help you and know you.
August 18th, 2008 at 11:42 am
Joseph,
I had to cry just acknowledging that I do the same thing. I look at every man out there that looks like my father thinking it’s him. Its been two years since his death. The news was given to me abruptly one morning, and I fell to the floor just calling out for him. The pain still exist, but I know that some day I will meet with my father again. Only problem is that I want to go already. I don’t know where he is but I swear I feel my father. In every thing he moves in the apartment, in every little thing that falls with out getting touched, I know that he is not completely gone. The only problem is that I can’t see him like he sees me. I know your brother is not completely gone. Just as me, you’ll get to see him again. I will wait for my turn.
November 10th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Hi Joe. I feel your pain today. Although I haven’t lost a brother (yet), I can understand how you feel. My friend, my youngest brother is an alcoholic, and my other brother and I wait all of the time for him to drink his life away. Just so god-damn sad! Anyway, wanted you to know that my thoughts are with you and I wish you all the very, very best. Take care and know that others are thinking of you.
November 24th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Joseph, I understand why we all blame God when we loose someone we love very much. It’s easy to blame him because he is God and we all know that he holds life and death in the palm of his hand. Therefore, we expect him to let us live until we all are at least 120 yrs? One thing I can assure you of and that is that WE ALL HAVE AN APPOINTMENT WITH DEATH, however, I am deeply sorry you lost your brother. I lost my mother when I was 17yrs old and I had to fight through life without any parental help or advice or guidance. My father walked out when I was 12 yrs old. The bible tells us we will see these people again someday: if we are saved and is living a Godly life. That’s one of the promises God made to man. I know God understands your anger towards him and you know he still and,will always love and forgive you. I dreamed alot of my mother and over time I was able to go on with life although, I will never forget her. In time Joseph your heart will be able to bare it.
January 20th, 2009 at 7:33 pm
No it’s not okay not to “forgive God” because he didn’t sin against you in the first place.
I understand how you feel. I lost my dad 1 1/2 years ago and i’m just 17 that time. My youngest sister was 13. I know the pain. I know how you cry every night. I also know how you see someone you love slipping away. I also saw my dad die. We even administered CPR on him.
It took me time to forgive the person who caused him to die but I did. Maybe not yet completely but I have. We don’t know why God does these things at wrong times. But He has a plan for all of us, no matter how painful they may be. The fact that God took something so great for us means that something even greater will be given back.
Trust him dear.
May 10th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
The truth is very difficult to continue with your life after the loss of a brother / sister, your life will no longer be the same again, my sister died two months ago was a little rough so she step, but when I feel super sad, I think now God is giving the rest that she deserved … she was a woman strong and courageous, inspiring, positive, with a big heart, she suffered much in life sometimes, but those are certainly things that only God and she knows now that this no longer suffer, that pain is gone, she’s good! because she leave the problems of this world and found in the presence of God rest (L) …
One wonders why, if God, why? but when evaluating a person’s life that has left …it can start to appear some answers ….
We can not blame God for death, in its initial purpose was not, the death was because of sin … but God was not create death, that is why He offers a second life, eternal life for those He love and believe in, and are washed and saved by the blood of Christ that eternal life in heaven will be a reality:)
Before concluding I would like to clarify, it is hard to live without a brother without a sister, your life NEVER be the same again, your family is different … and it hurts to accept it, but God is the God who comforts us and I think … (I say this because I have not even reached that stage) with the time it is he who will help us to accept this loss ….
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La verdad es muy dificil continuar con tu vida despues de la perdida de un hermano / hermana, tu vida ya no vuelve a ser la misma, mi hermana murio hace dos meses fue un poco duro por lo que ella paso, pero cuando me siento super mal , pienso que ahora Dios le esta dando el descanso que ella merecia…ella fue una mujer fuerte y valiente, inspiradora , positiva, con un gran corazón, sufrio mucho en la vida algunas veces, pero esas son cosas que seguramente solo Dios y ella lo saben, ahora ese sufrmiento ya no esta, ese dolor desaparecio, ella esta bien ! porque ya dejo los problemas de este mundo y en la presencia de Dios encontro descanso (L)…
Uno si se pregunta ¿ porque Dios, porque? pero cuando evalua la vida de la persona que se ha marchado pueden empezar a aparecer algunas respuestas….
No podemos culpar a Dios por la muerte, en su proposito inicial la muerte no estaba , fue por culpa del pecado que esta llego al hombre…pero en los planes de Dios no estaba la muerte, es por ello que el nos ofrece una segunda vida , una vida eterna para quienes le amamos y creemos en el , y somos salvos lavados con la sangre de Cristo esa vida eterna en los cielos sera una realidad
Antes de terminar quiero aclarar , es dificil vivir sin un hermano , sin una hermana , tu Vida JAMAS vuelve a ser la misma, TU FAMILIA es diferente…y duele aceptarlo , pero Dios es el Dios que nos consuela…y creo ( digo creo porque aun no he llegado a esa etapa) con el tiempo es EL quien nos ayudara a aceptar esta perdida ….
June 16th, 2009 at 2:36 pm
i haven’t lost anyone close to me yet but i know that reality will set in and i know that it will happen one day
but what you said about forgiving God not exactly yet. i don’t really know if God would understand me for this or what but….
you don’t exactly have to forgive God exactly yet. whatever amount of time it takes until you recover. God understands your pain and understands the pain of the world. just know that eventually you should forgive God and know he didn’t do this
good luck