Dear God,
I’ve been in love with a guy for two years. He’s not with me now but we were together for 6 months and things were very weird because I always felt that there was someone else watching us. As the result of that feeling I kept a wall between us (even though I die to tell him I love him everyday!!!). We eventually broke up but it hasn’t ended for me. I know it’s been two years…but every time I get the chance to see him I fall in love with him all over again. But to make things worst, I have a new boyfriend. I feel so sad about what I’m doing to him. I know I’m not the first one in this situation.What should I do God? Really…I get physically and mentally tired just to think of it. I’ve cried millions of tears. I try to tell myself everyday…”You don’t love him anymore…move on”. Should I just give up and let it die?
Ana, Somewhere
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May 2nd, 2008 at 2:01 am
Every day I think these exact thoughts. You don’t decide who you love or when you are over it, if ever. I don’t think anyone really “gets over” a love and moves on, I think there just becomes different intensities and variations of love. A young passionate love that centers around the “what could have been” seems to rule minds and hearts. In reality, maybe it should stay there in that anticipatory state. I think people love to grasp onto the idea of an ideal love.
May 2nd, 2008 at 2:53 am
Love is the Key, Love is the answer.
May 2nd, 2008 at 3:55 am
Follow your heart now! Your regrets will haunt you forever if you let too much time go by or unsurmountable circumstances build up. Do not let pride keep you back, say what you need to say to him, even if that ends everything. You shouldn’t have to live with “what ifs” and neither should your boyfriends or husband in the future. You may find that he is still everything that you remember him as and be happy forever after, or else you will know now that you were right in breaking things off with him the first time. Live your life.
May 3rd, 2008 at 8:36 am
Um. Seek professional help. I’m sure the guy doesn’t want you to be a 2-year-long stalker!
May 4th, 2008 at 5:43 am
Well done Jen
May 6th, 2008 at 3:42 am
how would you feel if it were being done to you?
would you not want to know the truth?
the truth will set you free….
May 6th, 2008 at 6:20 am
You’re “regrets” should not haunt you. everyone has regrets. you just have to learn to accept them.
May 7th, 2008 at 8:38 am
I’m still in love with my ex-girlfriend a year and a half after we broke up. I don’t know whether to cut her out of my life completely or try to stay friends with her, but everytime we get together, I can’t stop thinking how much I still love her. It gets harder everytime we see each other.
Its never black and white when you love someone.
ps- my girlfriend has no idea
May 8th, 2008 at 8:00 pm
“Savior” “Lordship” ?
Be strong… God loves you in every way you are.. But we know He also espect us to obey and offer Him… Loyalty.
give Him your joy, your sadness, your future….. others.
^_^
Mathew 6:13
May 10th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
where to begin?
do you ever imagine a world where you get everything you want?
when you don’t strive for something you don’t have ownership, you also don’t have any attachment. it’s the emotional spikes that this attachment creates that you crave… even if you found an exact replica of this guy you’re thinking of, you have no emotional attachment to ever go after this duplicate.
if you really want this guy — or anyone in this world — realize that everyone has perceptions and opinions. nothing is objective. everything is subjective (i guess technically saying that everything is subjective is objectifying an opinion/judgment)..
anyway, everyone wants the same thing.. it’s to be loved. whatever that means to them. you should realize you simply didn’t play this properly… i know i always go after experiences that create positive emotions, that’s really all there is to it i think. people can have opinions, be rich and be better than others, but all that really matters to me is that i and the people around me are having positive experiences….
May 14th, 2008 at 9:37 pm
Ana,
I know exactly how you feel, as I am in an almost identical position. I don’t know what you can do about this guy you love so much- I don’t know what to do myself. It’s so painful seeing someone who you love, and you know once loved you, and finding you can’t be with them. It’s so hard to see clearly. I really hope things work out for you, whether this means being with this guy again or finding peace without him.
In the meantime, please consider your relationship with your current boyfriend. No one wants to be a substitute for someone else. There is nothing wrong with trying to love someone else, and maybe a long-term relationship between you is possible. But if you’re sure it’s never going to work it’s time to let go. By hanging on, you don’t just hurt him, you hurt yourself.
Take care and God bless.
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