Dear God,
I am deeply in love with my best friend. I told her I cannot be her friend anymore because I was feeling like I was lying to her. I don’t think life brought us together in some way to tear us apart now. I miss her so much I don’t think I will enjoy life again. Please give me the strength to make me live again.
Julien - Paris/France
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July 25th, 2008 at 2:16 am
I’m in love with my best friend too. But I choose don’t tell it to her now, ‘cos I know that her mother won’t accept this relationship, and I don’t wanna put my love in troble now. I know that she loves me like I love her, we have our moments, but I can’t make it by now. I’ll wait her maturity and I know that we’ll be su much happy. And we are so. I prefer don’t penalize me nor her. I choose love and wait.
I wish you peace. : )
July 25th, 2008 at 8:02 pm
Whether to tell her or not is a choice, but love is never a lie.
July 29th, 2008 at 3:05 pm
we are two in the same situation.
suerte.
August 1st, 2008 at 12:58 am
I think you shiuld feel better when you know I am incruablely in love with a girl I never know when to meet again.
And, come on, do your best, then you will have a happy end, I’m sure.
August 4th, 2008 at 8:03 pm
Doesn’t your best friend know? She must, like, at least have an inkling. You didn’t really specify on whether you told her or not.
I’ve been in a similar situation, but not with my best friend, I never told him how I felt about him, but he just ‘knew.’ In the end he moved schools, and I haven’t really seen much of him since. It takes years my friend, to get over the one you love, without taking it a step further. It took me 2-3 years, but from what I’ve read, it’s gonna take you double that!
No offence… But what’s important is that you’ll get over her, and move on. You just gotta think, what does God want you to take away from this event? What does He want you to learn? What is He trying to teach you? I hope that helps, because it helped me, but that’s if you believe in God… (hope you do!)
August 20th, 2008 at 4:15 am
You should be in love with your best friend! I do not know if I could love someone on a intimate basis if it was not my best friend!
August 26th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
Try this for size. I have known this lady for 17 years. She married my best friend at the time. Over the years he has treated her like garbage. She needed to get out and relax a few years back so we started going out singing together. At this point i was attracted to her but I wasn’t in love with her at this point but it grew and i did everything to fight it off. She is the most amazing woman i have ever known and we are kindred spirits in so many ways. We have become best friends. But now , I am lost in love with her, and she is about to leave my other best friend ( it was doomed to begin with and I knew it). She want’s to enjoy life more, but i get jelous at the thought of her being with any other man. I am having a hard time with my emotions, and fear I am going to have to tell her. I was planning to never say how i was attracted to her but again it is growing to the point that i think about her every single day.
I fear the day that I do, either by accident or by breaking down. Either way I do not believe she would return the feelings or at the least be unwilling to give it a wirl (date or whatever). I can either keep the friendship I have but will need to distance myself from her for a while, or tell her and risk it all. Becoming f*** buddies has crossed my mind and probably would have a better chance at that then love interests. I’m lost as to what to do. What would it do to my other friendship. Would I risk his friendship for her love?
I feel like Lancelot, though I brought no damage to their relationship. I didn’t have to, he did it to himself and I even tried to help them mend it many times over the years.
Things have changed.
August 30th, 2008 at 9:20 pm
Oh my God. Julien, your name is the same one of the person I love.
I said a prayer for you just now just as hard as I did for myself.
He either doesn’t know or doesn’t want to know.
September 10th, 2008 at 10:10 pm
I just had to write! I’ve been through all this. I’ve been madly inlove with my best friend, so much that at some point I couldn’t stand it and I had to tell him. He didn’t respond in the same way. So nothing good came from this. I know he liked me very much, he was even very attracted by me. But he was with smb else, and he didn’t want me… He prefered not to ruin our friendship. But at some point we had to end it. It took me a very long time to heal….I don’t want to discourage u, but it took me about 7 years… All that time I wondered why, what I was supposed to learn from this. I really couldn’t find a reason.
But life is so tricky!
After about 7 years from the moment I fell inlove with him, we met again by accident. I think we hadn’t seen eachother for 2-3 years at that moment. An it was amazing…. We started a relationship. And I thought I finally found a REASON. Maybe that was the way ment to be. Probably we both had to get older and wiser, and then meet again.
The bad news is…. he broke my heart again. And so bad!
We can’t even stay friends…. And I miss him so much, i miss him being my friend….
I still don’t know why all this happened…. I’m still trying to learn smth from this…
I strongly hope that it won’t take me again 7 years to heal… I dont think I could stand it.
I hope the right person will come for me too. It seems he wasn’t my soulmate, as I thought…
September 28th, 2008 at 9:52 am
And I thought I was the only one!(Besides julia roberts in that movie)
I’ts going to be a year since i fell in love with my best friend.I never told him, just the thought of he not feeling the same way or being weird around each other after telling him the truth has always stopped me.
The worst thing is that he used to like me (in a “romantic” way ) before I did…he is younger and therefore i did not pay attention to him at first.
Yet now i fear the situation is the other way around ..or not.He is very careing and charming ,that usually sends the wrong signs, maybe he is just fond of me as a friend or maybe it is something more (I hope!)
I played all the cards you can imagine, from makeovers to inventing I started seeing someone, the only card iIhaven’t played…is telling the truth.
Wonder if I’ll win with that one ..
Prayer for you , me and everyone in this situation.
September 30th, 2008 at 10:18 am
I find it hard to comprehend how you could destroy a friendship because you want to be with someone - surely a life without that person at all is worse than not to see her at all? I’m kinda In love with one of my best friends, I’ve never told her but I’m priddy sure she knows, we just don’t talk about it. Shes a great friend and I’d like to think she knows that I’d never do anything to harm that friendship - if that means never really telling her how I feel then thats the price I will pay for being close to a girl, that in my mind, is the most wonderful woman on the planet. I like to tell her how wonderful she is, It makes ‘the lies’ or ignoring the truth feel better some how…
I know to some people this may seem silly, possibly selfsh or cowardly… but whats the alternative… tell her and possibly loose everything… I toy with the idea… but her friendship is too much to loose.
October 25th, 2008 at 3:35 pm
Dear, God
so here i stand in love with a man who has made it clear that he does not want to be with me. Its not like the other times when he said it and he would come back. i know hes not confused this time. and i find myself willing to be his friend just to have him around. i am thankful for the time we shared. i learned alot and i also hurt alot. I messed up and did things i shouldnt have done. im just hurting because my heart and mind refuse to believe that its over. I pray you mend us. I pray you strengthen us where we are weak if i ever get another chance. I am in love please here my prayer. i humble myself before you and find myself telling strangers my story wishing i could talk to him and he would hear me out. i have faith and patience….
October 28th, 2008 at 5:08 am
welcome me in the club!! hehe
been in the same situation too. like you julien, i couldn’t tell him how i feel. am too afraid to risk. he might suddenly disappear when he learns about my feeling. i don’t want to ruin our friendship. i dont think life would be the same without him. i have to settle for the least.. just continue be his friend.
of course, there are times he’s been hurting me unintentionally. i just have to accept those pains and pretend am not being affected. i wanna get mad at him at times for those promises unfulfilled, but i cant. i dont have the right. i cant demand from him either. coz am just his friend.
ur situation will be different from mine if you just do the move. you’re the guy, julien. do the first move. maybe just like me, she’s just waiting for you to do the move first.
man and woman are considered equal nowadays, but still not in courting things.especially here in our country. we’re still conservative.
you’re happiness lies in your hand. wish you all the good luck.
tell me what would happen ok? if she’s just waiting for you, maybe .. just maybe… i can do the first move…
January 1st, 2009 at 8:00 am
Wow….
you can never hear enough of the same situation. I with you join in with the whole ” I’m in love with my best friend”. It’s never something really easy but it just happens. whether or not you choose to say something it’s a feeling that will continue to be within you until you say something. I was in the same situation, i fell for my best friend. I never tried to let it happen but when someone is so close to you and understands you better then anyone else you can’t help but to want to share some type of life with them. So in my case i continued to just be his friend like always and be the same me he was used to, but at some point he began to notice something was wrong. it’s not an easy feeling to hide and im pretty much sure you have realized that…but you know what in you lies the decision to talk and say your feelings. I did…and to my surprise when i confessed what i was feeling my best friend confessed he had been feeling the same thing and in my confession we have begun a relationship, i might add one of the best ones i have ever had!
so if this serves as some type of motivation by all means do it. No one really knows how god functions…so who’s to say that this isn’t an opportunity from god to you, a chance to be happy!
GOOD LUCK!!!
February 18th, 2009 at 11:08 am
I too share your the hard situation you are going through.I’ve been dealing with it for 10 years now and have finally been able to make some sense of it. You to will understand when it’s time. The sooner you can realize that god has a reason for everything the easier it will be for you. No , you will not love her any less but you will be able to live without her. The girl I am in love with is the most amazing person I have ever met. At least she is to me. Every time I see her it’s like I’m looking at am angel. At no point have I ever considered living the rest of my life without her. I feel very lucky to have a girl that I can share those feelings with and not have any fear of loosing our friendship. We unconditionally love each other and it seems so wrong that we are not married but god had a reason and im trusting him.try to find the things in your life you wouldn’t have if you were with her. I happen to have a son that I otherwise would not have. She also has a little girl and that wouldn’t have been possible if we were together. There is a reason for you loving her so much but you won’t know why until after it happens. Maybe it’s to keep you from the wrong person or maybe your relationship wouldn’t make it now for some reason. Or it could be any 1 of another million reasons but there is a purpose. Don’t be afraid to ask god questions. Just don’t expect him to wisper in your ear. If you ask he will lead you to what you need to know. I never had much faith and wasted many years feeling bad when I didn’t have to. Last week when I was talking to my friend she told me to ask god and he would tell me. I asked him a few questions and had answers in an hour. He brought me to this website and the first thing I read was written by someone with the same name as her. The words I read seemed like they were coming from her mouth. A half hour later there was a show on tv about a couple that were in love for years before finally being able to be together. Everything they said seemed to touch me.it was like the story was about us. The best part was they also had the same names. Some would say that it was just by chance but that was the first time I asked a question and I had an answer in an hour. Keep your faith up and everything will make some sense to you when it’s time. God would not let you love someone so much for no reason. Be happy that you understand what it’s like to love someone like that. Many people go through their lives not knowing if they are in love but you will never have that question.
February 23rd, 2009 at 5:43 am
II am so glad to see others in similar situations I am in love with my friend after about 6 yrs I know this is true. he makes me so happy and my love is unconditional he is always there for me and is a great so called uncle to my daughter, we had a few very intimate and amazing nites together a few years ago and I know he loves me also he has told me however we are not together we are still just friends and it hurts years ago we said we didnt want to screw us up but the love never fades and I know we are meant for eachother I think it will be in gods time and that love is love not logic so god bless you all in similar situations and may god lead us and bless us and bring us together with the ones we love and long for so strongly Amen !!!!!!!!!!!
February 23rd, 2009 at 5:50 am
Dear god,
Please show me the right direction to go in with the one I am in love with I want to be with him and I know he loves me also I am REAdy god ready for whatever you have in store for us and willing to stick with him through thick and thin I want him and only him forever please bring us together and bless us thank you AMEN!!!!
March 5th, 2009 at 6:02 pm
you are still more fortunate than millions of people around the world..
your dearest is your bestfriend..
my dearest is not even my friend.. she’s just a girl next door..
and i don’t know if i have a chance on her..
just be with her..
this is for you my friend..
be safe..
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March 31st, 2009 at 6:57 pm
It’s comforting to see so many people in the same situation! But I guess it doesn’t really help me out personally. I’ve been in love with my best friend for about 2 years now, and I’m on the verge of telling her how I really feel. However, she’s been in a relationship with her boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and is now since engaged. We got to meet and know each other our freshman year of college, when he wasn’t here for an entire year and that’s how we got really close. It’s such a tough decision to make though. I’m afraid if I tell her the truth our friendship will never be the same.
April 28th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
Pete is right. i 2o love ma best frnd. bt i fear tht i’ll lose her frndship by confessing. half a loaf is better thn no bread. people shout tht love is eternal BULL SHIT! LOVE CAN’T BE ETERNAL UNLESS ITS MUTUAL. SO TRY HEALING PAL
May 25th, 2009 at 7:40 pm
loving your best friend is easy….their your best friend they are the part of u that makes everything make sense and i told the woman i was in love with how i felt…i was also told no…but i have memories that keep me goin everyday every kiss every smell every chance i got 2 be with her…i would give anything to have her forever to hold all you can do is wait….there is a reason they were in your life dont let that go its the saddest feeling you can ever have
June 5th, 2009 at 4:35 am
Hey every one i never thought id find a website like this well me … Rainye i am 17 yrs old and i kno adults think that we teenagers dont know anything about love. when i was 13 me and my family moved to moreno valley… i really didnt want to move and complained.
a week later i saw a boy who was moving in next door too. i was outside with my cousin and i didnt think he was attractive at all. lol!!
he saw me and went back inside the house .. when he came back out he had changed and i was talkative so i went and spoke to him. He was a shy boy and he seemed a bit more attractive up close … i didnt think nothing of it but the more i went outside and saw him i started to feel like i was afraid and that was a feeling i never had before .we started to get to kno each other more and he knew my name and when he called it for the first time i started to feel more like i really liked him it got to the piont were we became best friends ..and we did everything together my father didnt like our friend ship and assumed it was more and said i couldnt be friends with him any more.. my world turn and i disobeyed my father now it was my 9th month of knowing him and i discovered i had feelings.. we started sneaking out at night just to take and then it lead to something else. from that moment on i new i was inlove. my dad found out about it and he abused me so bad i couldnt take it .. after i had already turned 14 i ran away to live with my grandmother.. i had his number but i never thought that i would never see him again for a year we were fine and still friend until we were 15 and a half ….. he started changging and stopped calling me i started to get sad and angry because i was losing a friend and a love 1 night i got drunk and spilled out all my feelings pretending the next day that i didnt say anything …he told me that he had loved me too but i was more attached until i found out he wasnt that shy boy any more he started bangin, and treating me like he didnt even care. i told him again i was letting him go but i kept going back to him until a month before my 17th birthday i told him this time is the last and im not coming back he never said anything back and i never went back..
I kNOW THis IS LONG!!!!!
BUT what iM SAYin!!! is that if you love someone tell them before its too late and you get more involve and break your own heart trust me it hurts
GoDs lesson is to cherrish the little things you can hold unto until its tooken from you and
think about it as something positive …. someone ten times as goodlooking and better than he or she will come along
out of all of that god has promised me a husband and the wedding of my dreams …. so dont hold on to a bad situation when a better one is on the other end
I LOVE YOU All ANd hope u learn
Love raiyne God Bless you all
June 7th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
“Just don’t give up trying to do what you rally want to do. Where therfe is love and inspiration, There is no chanced to go wrong…
June 9th, 2009 at 3:43 am
Were both 21 and Ive known my best freind(girl) for 11 years and the last couple of years my emotions grew very strong for her for some reason and now i dont know if im in love with her or i just love her as a freind,ive allready told her how i feel cause if they are really ur best freind then u can tell them anything even if it is that ur in love with them. I also get very jealous when i see her with some other guy but i cant do anything cause we aint together, we are just very good freinds. I think she feels the same way about me but we are both worried that if we did get together and it didnt work out, that could mess up our 11year freindship and i coudent risk that cause 2 live without her would smash my heart to bits! Im guessing thats the price to pay being freinds with an amazing girl like her! Its so hard to go out and look for a girl to date cause all i think about is her, FRUSTRATING!!. Whoever does fall in love with there best freind dont let it get in the way cause u would probally regret losing him/her, i know i would!! I dont care who reads this i just needed 2 get it off my chest! Thanks.
June 17th, 2009 at 5:48 pm
So I’m pretty sure no one what I wrote a few posts before, but I finally told my friend of 3 years that I love her. The feeling was not mutual, but she told me she knew this was coming from me for awhile. I am absolutely crushed and wished she felt the same way back. But she said she has no problem putting this behind us, and moving on. I just don’t think I can with all these emotions. The worst part is I know I’m going to regret pushing her out of my life, but I’m hurting so bad I dont know what else to do.
July 30th, 2009 at 5:06 am
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August 26th, 2009 at 8:18 am
I was praying to God for guidance when I came upon this site.
I am in love with a woman I’ve known on and off for 24 years. She’s Christian, married and has a good husband and seven wonderful kids. I don’t want to harm her marriage or family. I’ve prayed and prayed for what to do. Her family has taken me in and I’m friends with her husband. She returns the feelings and has confessed them to God. She’s said she doesn’t love her husband, but wants to try and save the marriage. She wants me to be part of her and her children’s lives. I want to be with her, and lust after her greatly.
I confess that I have sinned in my heart.
I pray that I can be her friend and keep fighting to be virtuous. Our love is worth it.
September 6th, 2009 at 1:41 am
ei dude im in the same situation but i told my bestfriend that i have feelings with her and she said its ok she wont change the wat shes treating me as if nothing ever happened but when i asked her if there is a chance that we would be together she always said ‘i dont let faith deside’ umm can any1 tell me if she likes me back or how to get here im insanely in love with her and i would do the same thing pls!!! help me
November 5th, 2009 at 10:12 am
Im in the same boat i met her 11 years ago and we instantly clicked we were always together doing something in groups of friends . But with her i felt more connected . i always adored her but our timing was never right. She was engaged to a guy and she broke it off a year later and one night we were talking she told me she always liked me and always wanted to be with me so i told her i like u to but u just got out of a relationship u need time and i dont wanna be the rebound. So we both agreed to give it time . She asked me to move in and i did it was cool hangin with her everyday. Then she styarted seeing some guys and i became jealous i thought she forgot about me and was moving on so i started dating but kept thinking about her. Eventually she was single and i was single and one day we told each other how we felt and i told her if we do this theres no going back to being best friends and she agreed we wanted to reach the next level things were great we had fun and one day all of a sudden she told me she felt wierd that she was dating her best friend i was crushed. she wants to go back to the way it was i dont know if i can do that .You see by me living with her for 2 years i fell in love with her i would do anything to make her happy . I dont know if i should tell her i love her people say it can ruin the friendship but the friendship has already been tainted we already crossed that line i just dont know what to do