Dear God,
I am deeply in love with my best friend. I told her I cannot be her friend anymore because I was feeling like I was lying to her. I don’t think life brought us together in some way to tear us apart now. I miss her so much I don’t think I will enjoy life again. Please give me the strength to make me live again.
Julien - Paris/France
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July 25th, 2008 at 2:16 am
I’m in love with my best friend too. But I choose don’t tell it to her now, ‘cos I know that her mother won’t accept this relationship, and I don’t wanna put my love in troble now. I know that she loves me like I love her, we have our moments, but I can’t make it by now. I’ll wait her maturity and I know that we’ll be su much happy. And we are so. I prefer don’t penalize me nor her. I choose love and wait.
I wish you peace. : )
July 25th, 2008 at 8:02 pm
Whether to tell her or not is a choice, but love is never a lie.
July 29th, 2008 at 3:05 pm
we are two in the same situation.
suerte.
August 1st, 2008 at 12:58 am
I think you shiuld feel better when you know I am incruablely in love with a girl I never know when to meet again.
And, come on, do your best, then you will have a happy end, I’m sure.
August 4th, 2008 at 8:03 pm
Doesn’t your best friend know? She must, like, at least have an inkling. You didn’t really specify on whether you told her or not.
I’ve been in a similar situation, but not with my best friend, I never told him how I felt about him, but he just ‘knew.’ In the end he moved schools, and I haven’t really seen much of him since. It takes years my friend, to get over the one you love, without taking it a step further. It took me 2-3 years, but from what I’ve read, it’s gonna take you double that!
No offence… But what’s important is that you’ll get over her, and move on. You just gotta think, what does God want you to take away from this event? What does He want you to learn? What is He trying to teach you? I hope that helps, because it helped me, but that’s if you believe in God… (hope you do!)
August 20th, 2008 at 4:15 am
You should be in love with your best friend! I do not know if I could love someone on a intimate basis if it was not my best friend!
August 26th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
Try this for size. I have known this lady for 17 years. She married my best friend at the time. Over the years he has treated her like garbage. She needed to get out and relax a few years back so we started going out singing together. At this point i was attracted to her but I wasn’t in love with her at this point but it grew and i did everything to fight it off. She is the most amazing woman i have ever known and we are kindred spirits in so many ways. We have become best friends. But now , I am lost in love with her, and she is about to leave my other best friend ( it was doomed to begin with and I knew it). She want’s to enjoy life more, but i get jelous at the thought of her being with any other man. I am having a hard time with my emotions, and fear I am going to have to tell her. I was planning to never say how i was attracted to her but again it is growing to the point that i think about her every single day.
I fear the day that I do, either by accident or by breaking down. Either way I do not believe she would return the feelings or at the least be unwilling to give it a wirl (date or whatever). I can either keep the friendship I have but will need to distance myself from her for a while, or tell her and risk it all. Becoming f*** buddies has crossed my mind and probably would have a better chance at that then love interests. I’m lost as to what to do. What would it do to my other friendship. Would I risk his friendship for her love?
I feel like Lancelot, though I brought no damage to their relationship. I didn’t have to, he did it to himself and I even tried to help them mend it many times over the years.
Things have changed.
August 30th, 2008 at 9:20 pm
Oh my God. Julien, your name is the same one of the person I love.
I said a prayer for you just now just as hard as I did for myself.
He either doesn’t know or doesn’t want to know.
September 10th, 2008 at 10:10 pm
I just had to write! I’ve been through all this. I’ve been madly inlove with my best friend, so much that at some point I couldn’t stand it and I had to tell him. He didn’t respond in the same way. So nothing good came from this. I know he liked me very much, he was even very attracted by me. But he was with smb else, and he didn’t want me… He prefered not to ruin our friendship. But at some point we had to end it. It took me a very long time to heal….I don’t want to discourage u, but it took me about 7 years… All that time I wondered why, what I was supposed to learn from this. I really couldn’t find a reason.
But life is so tricky!
After about 7 years from the moment I fell inlove with him, we met again by accident. I think we hadn’t seen eachother for 2-3 years at that moment. An it was amazing…. We started a relationship. And I thought I finally found a REASON. Maybe that was the way ment to be. Probably we both had to get older and wiser, and then meet again.
The bad news is…. he broke my heart again. And so bad!
We can’t even stay friends…. And I miss him so much, i miss him being my friend….
I still don’t know why all this happened…. I’m still trying to learn smth from this…
I strongly hope that it won’t take me again 7 years to heal… I dont think I could stand it.
I hope the right person will come for me too. It seems he wasn’t my soulmate, as I thought…
September 28th, 2008 at 9:52 am
And I thought I was the only one!(Besides julia roberts in that movie)
I’ts going to be a year since i fell in love with my best friend.I never told him, just the thought of he not feeling the same way or being weird around each other after telling him the truth has always stopped me.
The worst thing is that he used to like me (in a “romantic” way ) before I did…he is younger and therefore i did not pay attention to him at first.
Yet now i fear the situation is the other way around ..or not.He is very careing and charming ,that usually sends the wrong signs, maybe he is just fond of me as a friend or maybe it is something more (I hope!)
I played all the cards you can imagine, from makeovers to inventing I started seeing someone, the only card iIhaven’t played…is telling the truth.
Wonder if I’ll win with that one ..
Prayer for you , me and everyone in this situation.
September 30th, 2008 at 10:18 am
I find it hard to comprehend how you could destroy a friendship because you want to be with someone - surely a life without that person at all is worse than not to see her at all? I’m kinda In love with one of my best friends, I’ve never told her but I’m priddy sure she knows, we just don’t talk about it. Shes a great friend and I’d like to think she knows that I’d never do anything to harm that friendship - if that means never really telling her how I feel then thats the price I will pay for being close to a girl, that in my mind, is the most wonderful woman on the planet. I like to tell her how wonderful she is, It makes ‘the lies’ or ignoring the truth feel better some how…
I know to some people this may seem silly, possibly selfsh or cowardly… but whats the alternative… tell her and possibly loose everything… I toy with the idea… but her friendship is too much to loose.
October 25th, 2008 at 3:35 pm
Dear, God
so here i stand in love with a man who has made it clear that he does not want to be with me. Its not like the other times when he said it and he would come back. i know hes not confused this time. and i find myself willing to be his friend just to have him around. i am thankful for the time we shared. i learned alot and i also hurt alot. I messed up and did things i shouldnt have done. im just hurting because my heart and mind refuse to believe that its over. I pray you mend us. I pray you strengthen us where we are weak if i ever get another chance. I am in love please here my prayer. i humble myself before you and find myself telling strangers my story wishing i could talk to him and he would hear me out. i have faith and patience….
October 28th, 2008 at 5:08 am
welcome me in the club!! hehe
been in the same situation too. like you julien, i couldn’t tell him how i feel. am too afraid to risk. he might suddenly disappear when he learns about my feeling. i don’t want to ruin our friendship. i dont think life would be the same without him. i have to settle for the least.. just continue be his friend.
of course, there are times he’s been hurting me unintentionally. i just have to accept those pains and pretend am not being affected. i wanna get mad at him at times for those promises unfulfilled, but i cant. i dont have the right. i cant demand from him either. coz am just his friend.
ur situation will be different from mine if you just do the move. you’re the guy, julien. do the first move. maybe just like me, she’s just waiting for you to do the move first.
man and woman are considered equal nowadays, but still not in courting things.especially here in our country. we’re still conservative.
you’re happiness lies in your hand. wish you all the good luck.
tell me what would happen ok? if she’s just waiting for you, maybe .. just maybe… i can do the first move…
January 1st, 2009 at 8:00 am
Wow….
you can never hear enough of the same situation. I with you join in with the whole ” I’m in love with my best friend”. It’s never something really easy but it just happens. whether or not you choose to say something it’s a feeling that will continue to be within you until you say something. I was in the same situation, i fell for my best friend. I never tried to let it happen but when someone is so close to you and understands you better then anyone else you can’t help but to want to share some type of life with them. So in my case i continued to just be his friend like always and be the same me he was used to, but at some point he began to notice something was wrong. it’s not an easy feeling to hide and im pretty much sure you have realized that…but you know what in you lies the decision to talk and say your feelings. I did…and to my surprise when i confessed what i was feeling my best friend confessed he had been feeling the same thing and in my confession we have begun a relationship, i might add one of the best ones i have ever had!
so if this serves as some type of motivation by all means do it. No one really knows how god functions…so who’s to say that this isn’t an opportunity from god to you, a chance to be happy!
GOOD LUCK!!!