Dear God,
I need your help. I am in love with two woman at the same time. I cannot choose between them. It’s getting harder to keep it a secret as the day goes by. I really need your help. Who do I chose? Terence, Melbourne/AustraliaShare:
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June 16th, 2008 at 8:15 pm
Choose neither. You’re not in love.
June 17th, 2008 at 3:56 am
“El amor es algo mas de lo que la mente y la razon humana puede llegar a entender.”
translation: “Love is something more than what human reasoning and the human brain could ever understand”
LOVE or LUST. You know who you love, and if you still have a doubt then listen to “Dutchman”
June 17th, 2008 at 4:43 am
Dutchman: exactly.
If any of it was real … there would be nothing to choose.
June 17th, 2008 at 6:00 pm
Just keep both. Be a pimp.
June 18th, 2008 at 1:38 am
My vote goes for dutchman.. even if u choose both of them or neither one.. u won’t be happy in future.. whenever u see another.. so its better to leave..
June 19th, 2008 at 11:27 am
I agree. When it’s real, you don’t even have to ask. You simply know it.
June 19th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Pick the one with the best looking mother. Seriously.
June 26th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
it’s simple.. the one with big tits
June 29th, 2008 at 3:13 am
your focus shouldn’t be on these women, the love of your live should be God. Put him first in your heart and answers will come
August 28th, 2008 at 11:00 pm
Kathryn… you should be slapped from silly back to sense.
Terence Im in the same boat, I dont know what to do either… no one here seems to have any help.
October 29th, 2008 at 10:21 am
When you truly love people you want what is best for THEM…it’s called “unconditional love”….you’ll know that feeling when it happens to you for sure…you will be happy simply because the other person is happy…with or without YOU in their life. The secret is in nobody’s best interest my friend. Keep praying that they don’t smack you into next year when they find out! I say that in the most loving way! Get ready to duck!
December 31st, 2008 at 10:29 pm
have u ever hear dof a polyamore? or i think thats what it is. i read a book called i love you two and it was all about how there was this woman and she wa a polyamore and she was in love with two men, she couldnt choose between them, and they completed her, without one of them she was incomplete. and both of the men knew about each other. maybe ur a polyamore too?
January 27th, 2009 at 1:34 am
I have the same situation on my hands. I t will be easy to say that i am a dog and that I don’t respect women. I do respect women and their emotions. My problem is that I am married to a woman I love for 7 years. And everything was fine until I met a younger woman who totally blind sided with an overwhelming connection that goes deeper than the relationship I am in now. The second woman also has fallen in love with me. I was not looking for this it just happened. And now that the genie is out of the bottle I can’t go back. It is like having something that you really love and want and you figure that this is as good as it gets. Then here comes something that you didn’t know existed and it made your heart dance like it never has. But I love my wife and I don’t want to hurt her. But on the other hand I can’t go back to the way it was. I have confided with my father and my best friend but they are afraid to give me advice. I wish this had never happened but now I feel more alive than I ever had. I don’t think their is an ego thing going on here with me thinking that I the man with two women loving me. In fact I feel more like the victim. There are more complications that I will not get into here. But if you guys saw this new woman you would want her too. My wife is hot but this new woman is over the top with looks and she has an iq of 160. My wife has heart but she is not so quick. Please try and put yourself in my shoes and understand that I have never cheated on my wife or any girlfriend that I have ever had. So I beleive that this noot in my nature to play. But I can’t help being in love with two women and it is tearing me apart inside.if you have any advice for me please write to puuloa@hotmail.com, aloha
March 1st, 2009 at 4:12 am
I am dealing with a man who has a girlfriend and two kids . they have been together for 5 years and I have been dealing with him for 2 years and I know he loves her but he also loves me and I really believe that he does because of his actions. he takes good care of his kids and he is there for mines too. when we first started out I never intended on sleeping with this man but it happened cause we instantly had a bond and we yet yo end it but we never succeed and end up back together. I have never been in a situation like this and I cannot seem able to get out of it . I really think he is the one for me so I just hold on because he is not married but if he marries her I will leave because that would show me who he wants yo be with.sometimes I do feel I am wasting my time.
May 10th, 2009 at 5:02 am
Ok…gr8 for people who havent gone through this emotion to say its wrong n its LUST etc…now i wanna say something…u r committed to a girl..gr8 alls gr8…this angel jus walks in ur life n makes life a heaven…u kno…jus solves every damn problem u’ve got in ur life..i’ve been there for my girl since past 7 yrs…never did i feel any emotions for any woman (neither did i have the guts) but i really dont kno how n why this happened but the fact is…it happened..n trust me..i love both of them…I’ll ofcourse be married to one of them…n i kno the first one…the new girl knows tht i m committed…she knew it all the way…neither cud she stop falling in love with me n nor cud i…jus tht things happen…n we r human beings with emotions…dont know whts gunna happen with life…
I’ve been supporting my girl (emotionally) and almost forgot i needed pampering too…i just helped the new girl with things…n i realised tht solving her problems makes me happy…wht do i do?hate myself?comeon guys..
May 28th, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Well this thread is a year old so what eventually happened? I am struggling with the same problem now. My fiance who I love dearly I have been with 5 years and we have a wedding date set for 6 months time. My life was completely stable and great until I met (let’s call her) Lauren just over 3 months ago. I have never felt an attraction like this before and can’t stop thinking about her. I have not cheated physically but emotionally I am in a mess because I feel like I could spend the rest of my life with both women. My fiance is awesome. She is beautiful, caring, fun and all that but with Lauren it is hard to just not see her because we just understand each other and feel so at ease and happy around each other. This is driving me INSANE. Why the hell does this happen to me now after I have set a wedding date with someone I do love dearly!?! I am scared of making a mistake that I’ll regret the rest of my life!
June 17th, 2009 at 8:10 am
Well…..after a year old post with no advice……The decisions will come with or without gods help, Kathryn.
Crystal your either getting married or your not…its up to you to decide if your really wasting your time.
Deano….how do you just meet someone when your engaged? Call off the wedding and do her a favor.
This cannot happen…..? WHAT???
Nobody, I feel you man. advice to come…
Athina, theres this dude “this can happen” id like you to meet. Polyamory, Polygamy, Polyandry, Polygyny: What’s the difference?
A concept that’s fast gaining ground is ‘polyamory’, or ‘loving more than one.’ where couples accept that their partners indulge in sex - or thoughts of sex - outside the relationship,.
Polygyny is one man married to several women.
Polyandry is one woman married to several men.
Polygamy refers to either arrangement. The Utah Mormon church practiced polygyny. Several of today’s Mormon faiths practice both polygyny and polyandry, which is consistent with the practices of Joseph Smith the faith’s founder.
Lori….your right but are you saying you cant please 2 people at the same time? I know I know…. everyone wants the best for the people they love. What if your not sure who you should be with…. what if it really isnt your intent to hurt anyone… but you JUST DONT KNOW?
Geckzta - right on dude!
Chuck - well then you condone selfish greedy indulgent behavior. To each their own, good luck pimp daddy.
BAM BAM - that doesnt work… however I love Jorch’s retort….. big tits always win… sometimes…
dutchdic MiMi Robbie: thanks for your help…. PISS OFF : )
Now heres the advice…. right down all the things you love about each and why. Then make a pros and cons list for each. Your with someone new because there is something you dont like about your original relationship… you went looking and now your stuck. Your wasting someone’s time unless they enjoy the communal harmonious polyamorist relationship. And if thats cool with all parties… you have a perpetual threesome! rock on!!!! Most women do not want to compete or be a secret so you will ultimately have to make a choice. Break it down…..figure out who it is based of your data and make a decision and stick with it. Drop the other person quick refrain the urge and temptation to lead them on…its not fair. Put the fucking carrot away once and for all. And stop asking for advice, nobody but you can make the decision. Its not easy… at the end of the day someone’s getting hurt. Would you rather be a cheat and lie… or be honest and bow out gracefully?
The choice is yours.