Dear God,
I’m a little confused. I’ve been waiting for him for more than a year. In fact it’s been almost 3 years since we knew each other. I don’t speak to him very much when he’s abroad studying but I always feel happy thinking about him, when he’ll be coming back and we’ll be able to go out. It seems pretty clear that the feelings aren’t reciprocated now. The Moment, if we ever had one, passed about 2 years ago - when friends teased us about it and both of us insisted there was nothing but we went out and perhaps feeling there was a little bit of something. The reason I’m hanging on is because he is a good person. He was there listening to me and hearing my deepest secrets when I had a bad break up with my girlfriend back then. He never judged me for it, and accepted me for who I was. It’s always been something I never really dared to share with many people. Then I met another person while waiting for him. Like me, this person was waiting for someone who was away, and he also knows that his feelings aren’t reciprocated. We got to know each other better through this, and went out for a couple of times. I think we enjoyed each other’s company very much, and like to spend time together. But I’m such a bitch – it’s this superficial thing whereby I just can’t exactly look at him properly because well, he isn’t the best looking person in the world (neither am I, and I feel terrible feeling such a thing). I’m not sure if it matters, because I use to be unable to look at the guy I was waiting for in the eye because he wasn’t so cute either (but ultimately love is blind, like they always say). But I’m just afraid I’ll mess everything up. The one I’ve been waiting for just came back (we haven’t met yet), and I’ve been going out with this other person for quite a bit. We both know there’s someone else but I think we also know that we enjoy spending time together. And this morning I got up, worried about this new person instead of the one I’ve been waiting for so long. Dear God, why am I facing such a silly dilemma? I’m still trying to deal with school and my sport. I know there are people going through real and more serious issues than I am and need a lot of support, I hope you’ll help them too but when you have some spare time in between could you advise me on what to do? I’m feeling quite torn. Thank you so very much. Wei Ling, SingaporeShare:
July 16th, 2008 at 4:53 am
I´ve never had the feeling that I couldn´t look properly at someone´s face. No matter what he or she looks like. So it feels pretty strange reading this. All I can say, is that I wouldn´t want to be together with someone who couldn´t look at me comfortably. Maybe it is a little sign for you, that these two persons are not the right guys for you?
July 22nd, 2008 at 7:58 am
I agree.
Your love should be someone you could look at forever… an hour will go by and feel like an instant. Eyes are the window to the soul, looking into them should show you *love* in an overwhelming way.
November 1st, 2008 at 5:30 am
Hello, i to am in a waiting position. I think its a beautiful thing.
Because you know it will last, and you really want to be together.
Being faithful is hard, as i well know, and i wake up everyday unhappy with what im doing, being with someone else.
But i get lonely, it has been 3 years, and before i get to see him it would have been 7, our relationship would have been worth 7 years.
This is why i look for cute boys who like the same bands as me a stuff, but none of that really bothers me.
The one i love is perfect to me.
I think, you should really think, what is worth your love, you complete love, and take it and never let go.
Being on love is a gift from god, don’t let him down.
May peace be with you, and who ever you choose to live your life with.