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I Can’t Believe That I’m Still A Virgin.

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March 16th, 2009
virgin.jpg Dear God, I can’t believe that I’m still a virgin. I am 20 years old and I am confident about myself. I have success in school, work, popular in friends, have good sense of style, and beauty. Seems like everything is perfect, but it is not. There is this big hole inside my heart. I have been single for 4 years and I don’t even know why. I tried to find love or at least crush but everytime I fail. I am starting to feel that I am a coward because I am not being open enough. I wished I had let go of my virginity long time a go so at least I can play around now. I am a party girl and it’s just a big contrary of what other people think and what I really am. I have tried to lose it with my fling but he stopped halfway, saying that he’s not gonna do it if I don’t feel comfortable, which i know I wasn’t. I didn’t tell him about my virginity and then he found out that I’m a virgin. He told my friend that he wants me to lose it to someone that would treat me right and he is not that person. My friends told me to lose it to someone I love and love me back, or at least like. But it’s just so hard to find him. I have been with lots of jerks and I’m always not interested with the good guys. I used to be a Catholic and I left because of modernity. I had new perception that religion is mostly made by human. I used to believe in abstinence. Now I just want to lose because I don’t care anymore. I feel so sick of it already. I want to do it because of me, not because of the guy. I know I’m selfish but I am just afraid to get hurt. I have experienced it before and it killed me once. I have been through hell. I just don’t want that to happen again. But now I’m starting to feel that I don’t know how to love. I feel that I can do all the things without man, I can. But deep down, I am miserably lonely and i know i need an intense relationship, a companion. But I suck at these things. I’m starting to feel sick of my perfectionist and independence. I am suffocated everyday. Sometimes I wish I have been born a man, not a woman. So that I can easily lose my virginity without regret. God, please help me to find my way back into my identity and love. Kat - Singapore

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I’m A Christian And My Sex Life Sucks

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December 11th, 2008
sex Dear God, I grew up in your church that told me that sex before marriage was wrong and could lead to destruction in relationships later in life… I abstained. Now I’m married to my beautiful wife that grew up under the same pressures to abstain. We don’t have sex because there are so many barriers and fences put up in her that sex is bad, sinful, guilt-riden, and carries all these negatives. (Now, she doesn’t say these things, but its what I surmise & feel from her) While dating, we grew strong spiritually and emotionally, but the sex/physical intimacy was avoided. Now we are like on a 3-legged stool with only 2 legs! Falling. Honestly it sucks with the sex drive that you handed me! I waited my whole life for this? And when we do make love, it has to be in the bedroom, on the bed, missionary pos. no exceptions… ever. God, is this what you intended for this beautiful experience? Sometimes, shamefully, I wish I’d taken advantage of all the opportunities I had in HS or College. Hear my cry Oh Lord! Why is it so bad to talk about this important intimate part of a marriage relationship? Yes, I’m a Christian and my sex life sucks!

Michael, Wyoming/USA

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Sex With Men

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September 28th, 2008
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Dear God,

I don’t know where to start. This is so hard for me to say that I have never told another living soul. First, let me say that I’m a married man and that I have a wife and three children I love very much. Sometimes when I think how much I love them I wonder how it is that I do what I do. I’ve lied to myself so long about this there seems no point in lying to you, so I’ll just say it – I go to public toilets and have sex with men. It started seven years ago after my promotion. Since then I have gone almost every day and sometimes twice a day to a toilet near the base but sometimes I go to local park. I’ve tried to stop through willpower but I can’t. I have to admit that the excitement of it is too much to resist. I find everything about the experience a total turn on, from the anonymity to the danger and even the smell. I need to say that I’m straight. I am, I know that and I could never have a relationship with a man. I also know that I’m risking everything. I could be arrested or blackmailed and I worry all the time about AIDS. Why do I do this? Do I hate myself? I can’t see a psychologist. I can’t talk about this with anyone. Please, dear God, show me a way out of this.

Jim, San Diego

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Hanging Out With His Brother And We Slept Together

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June 9th, 2008
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Dear God,

I made a horrible mistake. I asked you to help me get over an ex that I’m still in love with, that broke my heart. Well I didn’t get over him but I have been spending time away from hm and it’s been great. The only problem is that I recently starting hanging out with his brother and we slept together. It was a drunken mistake and I really feel horrible about the entire thing.

I wanted to tell the ex but I figured that I should let his brother do that. The brother doesn’t want to tell him now but I can’t live with this. It’s all I can think about and this sounds stupid but I’m really not this kind of person. I know that I’m the one that screwed up and that I need to deal with it but a little help would be greatly appreciated. I just don’t want this terrible mistake to ruin my ex’s relationship with his brother and if my ex and I could come out of all this as friends that would be great too, but I wouldn’t want ask for too much. Truthfully more than anything else I just want them to be okay and I want to get through this.

Thanks for everything. Betsy, Virginia/USA

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God - I Think Your Way Wrong About Sex

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June 5th, 2008
polaroid.jpg Dear God,I love you, but I think you’re way wrong about sex. I’ve been dating the same girl for three years and for two and a half we fought our desires because people claiming to talk for you told us to. Eventually it was too much and we gave in. It was one of the best choices I’ve ever made. Are we humans taking you too literally? Have your words been distorted by 2000 years of human pride and greed? I think so. But I wait to hear from you. Matthew, United States

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I’ve Struggled With Being Promiscuous For More Than Two Years Now

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May 30th, 2008
07_04_2008_0572282001207590252_eric_marrian.jpg Dear God, I think it was last night that I finally decided to turn this over to you. As you know, I’ve struggled with being promiscuous for more than two years now. I hate the person I’ve become; I hate thinking about all the people I have had sex with. I am ashamed and I have felt alone in my pain because I haven’t let you take over my heart. I hate the false dichotomy I’ve been living - loving you, loving everybody, growing to know you better, all the while still having sex with people I barely know. I can’t do this anymore, & I know you’ve finally decided to intervene, no longer letting me go it alone. I love you,Lord. You have to save me from this. Take away this burden, make me new, make me to accept your forgiveness, and to open up to somebody I can trust to hold me accountable. Jesus, your forgiveness & your grace are so overwhelming. I can not praise you enough.

Jenne - California/USA

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Sex Addict

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April 1st, 2008
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Dear God,

When I was a kid my mother used to say that my body was my temple. I never liked my mother and now she’s dead. Maybe everything I’ve done since then has been an attempt to exorcise her memory. When I think of all the men I’ve had sex with it seems like the only explanation. It’s not like I’m attracted to them - many of them are ugly, some of them are fat and most of them I can’t even remember. Most of them are married guys I meet online. I’d like to feel guilty about sleeping with the love of somebody else’s life – but I don’t. Maybe it’s because I’ve never had a love I can compare it to. Please God, what can I do? I know I’m a sex addict but I don’t know why and I think I might be at the end of my rope. I was never religious when I was a kid – I hated church and everything that went with it. But now I find I’ve exhausted every avenue. There’s nothing left. Are you there God?

Tina in Chicago

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